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feat(db): add 2 new v2 question categories (difficult_conversations, home_life) — 20 total, 5,500 questions - Rebuilt seeded DB with difficult_conversations.json + home_life.json - Hilt DI wiring (@HiltAndroidApp, @AndroidEntryPoint) - Updated User/Couple models to current schema - Replaced placeholder with AppNavigation - DB: 20 categories, 5,500 questions
2026-06-15 21:38:22 -05:00
{
"category": {
"id": "conflict",
"display_name": "Conflict",
"description": "Questions about disagreements, repair, triggers, boundaries, emotional regulation, and handling tension with care.",
"access": "mixed",
"total_questions": 250,
"free_questions": 75,
"premium_questions": 175,
"question_type_counts": {
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"single_choice": 40,
"multi_choice": 20,
"scale": 25,
"this_or_that": 15
},
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"supported_types": [
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"this_or_that"
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},
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{
"id": "conflict_001",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one small conflict habit we handle better now than before?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"growth",
"reflection"
],
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}
},
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"id": "conflict_002",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What helps you stay calm when we disagree?",
"depth": 1,
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"calm",
"self_regulation"
],
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},
{
"id": "conflict_003",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing I do during conflict that helps you feel respected?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"respect",
"conflict"
],
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"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_004",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing I do during conflict that makes you feel dismissed?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"dismissal",
"conflict"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_005",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What should we do when a small disagreement starts getting bigger?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"escalation",
"pause"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_006",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one topic where we usually need extra patience?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"patience",
"topics"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_007",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one topic where we should slow down before responding?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"timing",
"pause"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_008",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one phrase that helps you feel less attacked during disagreement?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"language",
"safety"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_009",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one phrase that makes you feel blamed?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"blame",
"language"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_010",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "How can I bring up a concern without making you feel cornered?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"soft_start",
"concern"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_011",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "How can you bring up a concern in a way I am more likely to hear?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"soft_start",
"listening"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_012",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What does a fair argument look like to you?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"fairness",
"conflict_rules"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_013",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What does an unfair argument look like to you?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"fairness",
"conflict_rules"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_014",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one boundary we should have during heated talks?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"boundaries",
"heated_talks"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_015",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one sign that you need a pause during conflict?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"pause",
"signals"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_016",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one sign that I need a pause during conflict?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"pause",
"signals"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_017",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "How should we restart a conversation after taking a break?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"repair",
"pause"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_018",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What helps you believe that I am trying to understand, not win?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"understanding",
"teamwork"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_019",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What makes it feel like I am trying to win instead of understand?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"winning",
"defensiveness"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_020",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing we should never say just to hurt each other?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"harm",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_021",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What should we do when one of us feels flooded or overwhelmed?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"flooding",
"self_soothing"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_022",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What helps you feel safe enough to admit you were wrong?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"accountability",
"safety"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_023",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What helps you feel safe enough to hear that I was hurt?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"hurt",
"safety"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_024",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way we can disagree and still feel close afterward?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"closeness",
"disagreement"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_025",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What does repair after conflict usually need from me?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"repair",
"needs"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_026",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What does repair after conflict usually need from you?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"repair",
"ownership"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_027",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one apology behavior that feels real to you?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"apology",
"repair"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_028",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one apology behavior that feels empty to you?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"apology",
"repair"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_029",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing we should apologize for faster?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"apology",
"timing"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_030",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing we should stop apologizing for without changing?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"change",
"accountability"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_031",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one conflict pattern you want us to notice sooner?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"patterns",
"awareness"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_032",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one conflict pattern you think we are already improving?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"growth",
"patterns"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_033",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What tends to make you defensive with me?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"defensiveness",
"triggers"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_034",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What tends to make me defensive with you?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"defensiveness",
"reflection"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_035",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "How can I respond when you are defensive without escalating?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"defensiveness",
"deescalation"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_036",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "How can you respond when I am defensive without escalating?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"defensiveness",
"deescalation"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_037",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What kind of criticism hurts you most?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"criticism",
"hurt"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_038",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What kind of feedback helps you grow without feeling attacked?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"feedback",
"growth"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_039",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one complaint you wish I could hear as a need?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"needs",
"complaints"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_040",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one complaint from me that may hide a deeper need?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"needs",
"complaints"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_041",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What helps you avoid shutting down when things get tense?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"stonewalling",
"tension"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_042",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What helps me avoid shutting down when things get tense?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"stonewalling",
"reflection"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_043",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What does it feel like when I go quiet during conflict?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"silence",
"impact"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_044",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What does it feel like when you go quiet during conflict?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"silence",
"self_awareness"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_045",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What would help silence feel like a pause instead of punishment?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"silence",
"repair"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_046",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing we can do before a conflict becomes disrespectful?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"respect",
"deescalation"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_047",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one sign that our tone is becoming the real problem?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"tone",
"awareness"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_048",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What tone from me makes it hardest for you to stay open?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"tone",
"openness"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_049",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What tone from you do you want to be more careful with?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"tone",
"ownership"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_050",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way we can lower the temperature in the room?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"deescalation",
"calm"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_051",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one issue we keep arguing about because we have not named the real problem?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"root_issue",
"patterns"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_052",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What do you think the real problem might be underneath that issue?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"root_issue",
"reflection"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_053",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one old argument we should finally retire?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"old_arguments",
"closure"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_054",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What would help us retire that argument respectfully?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"closure",
"repair"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_055",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one recurring conflict where we need a new agreement?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"agreements",
"recurring_conflict"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_056",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What would a better agreement look like?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"agreements",
"solutions"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_057",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one area where you feel I do not accept your influence enough?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"influence",
"respect"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_058",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one area where you want to accept my influence more?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"influence",
"growth"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_059",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way we can make decisions without turning them into power struggles?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"decisions",
"power"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_060",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one power struggle we should stop feeding?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"power",
"patterns"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_061",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing we can do when we both think we are right?",
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"humility"
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},
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"id": "conflict_062",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What helps you consider my perspective during conflict?",
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"tags": [
"perspective",
"listening"
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"max_length": 1000,
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},
{
"id": "conflict_063",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What helps me consider your perspective during conflict?",
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"tags": [
"perspective",
"reflection"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_064",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing I misunderstand about your anger?",
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"tags": [
"anger",
"understanding"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_065",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing you misunderstand about my anger?",
"depth": 4,
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"tags": [
"anger",
"understanding"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_066",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one feeling underneath your anger that I should understand?",
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"tags": [
"anger",
"vulnerability"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_067",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one feeling underneath my anger that you think I should name more clearly?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"anger",
"vulnerability"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_068",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way fear shows up in our conflicts?",
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"tags": [
"fear",
"conflict"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_069",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way hurt shows up in our conflicts?",
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"tags": [
"hurt",
"conflict"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_070",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way stress shows up in our conflicts?",
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"tags": [
"stress",
"conflict"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_071",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way exhaustion changes how we argue?",
"depth": 3,
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"tags": [
"exhaustion",
"timing"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_072",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What should we avoid discussing when we are hungry, tired, or rushed?",
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"tags": [
"timing",
"stress"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_073",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one better time or setting for hard conversations?",
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"tags": [
"timing",
"setting"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_074",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one rule we should make about conflict in public?",
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"tags": [
"public_conflict",
"boundaries"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_075",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one rule we should make about conflict around family or friends?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "free",
"tags": [
"privacy",
"boundaries"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_076",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one painful argument we need to understand instead of repeat?",
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"tags": [
"painful_arguments",
"patterns"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_077",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What did that argument reveal about what you need from me?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"needs",
"reflection"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_078",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What did that argument reveal about what I may need from you?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"needs",
"reflection"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_079",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing I do that feels like criticism even if I mean it as a concern?",
"depth": 5,
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"tags": [
"criticism",
"intent"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_080",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing you do that might land as criticism even if you mean it as honesty?",
"depth": 5,
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"tags": [
"criticism",
"ownership"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_081",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way contempt can sneak into our tone or words?",
"depth": 5,
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"tags": [
"contempt",
"awareness"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_082",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What helps us replace contempt with respect in hard moments?",
"depth": 5,
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"tags": [
"contempt",
"respect"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_083",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one sarcastic comment we should stop making during conflict?",
"depth": 4,
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"tags": [
"sarcasm",
"respect"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_084",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "When does humor help us repair, and when does it dodge the issue?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"humor",
"repair"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_085",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way I can show accountability without collapsing into shame?",
"depth": 5,
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"tags": [
"accountability",
"shame"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_086",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way you can show accountability without becoming defensive?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"accountability",
"defensiveness"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_087",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing we should validate before trying to solve?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"validation",
"problem_solving"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_088",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one solution I push before you feel heard?",
"depth": 4,
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"tags": [
"solutions",
"listening"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_089",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one solution you push before I feel heard?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"solutions",
"listening"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_090",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one topic where winning the argument costs us connection?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"winning",
"connection"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_091",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What would choosing connection over winning look like there?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"connection",
"repair"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_092",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one conflict where both of us have a valid point?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"perspective",
"validity"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_093",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is the most generous version of my side in that conflict?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"generosity",
"perspective"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_094",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is the most generous version of your side in that conflict?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"generosity",
"perspective"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_095",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing you wish I understood about your trigger before reacting to it?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"triggers",
"understanding"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_096",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing I wish you understood about my trigger before reacting to it?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"triggers",
"understanding"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_097",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one trigger we need to treat with more care?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"triggers",
"care"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_098",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one conflict behavior that reminds you of past pain?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"past_pain",
"patterns"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_099",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one conflict behavior from you that you want to unlearn?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"unlearning",
"ownership"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_100",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one conflict behavior from me that I should work to unlearn?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"unlearning",
"reflection"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_101",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What did your family teach you about arguing?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"family_patterns",
"conflict"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_102",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What did your family teach you about making peace?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"family_patterns",
"repair"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_103",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What conflict habit from your past no longer serves us?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"past_patterns",
"growth"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_104",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What repair habit from your past could help us?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"past_patterns",
"repair"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_105",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way we can disagree without threatening the relationship?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"security",
"disagreement"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_106",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What words or actions make conflict feel like abandonment to you?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"abandonment",
"security"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_107",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What words or actions make conflict feel like rejection to you?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"rejection",
"security"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_108",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What reassurance helps you stay present during conflict?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"reassurance",
"presence"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_109",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What reassurance feels unconvincing during conflict?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"reassurance",
"trust"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_110",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing we should do if a conversation becomes too intense?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"intensity",
"safety"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_111",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing we should never do when one of us asks for a pause?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"pause",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_112",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What would make a pause feel respectful instead of avoidant?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"pause",
"respect"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_113",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What should the person who calls a pause be responsible for?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"pause",
"responsibility"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_114",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What should the other person be responsible for during the pause?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"pause",
"responsibility"
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"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_115",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one repair attempt from me that you want to notice more?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"repair_attempts",
"noticing"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_116",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one repair attempt from you that I may miss?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"repair_attempts",
"noticing"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_117",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What gets in the way of accepting repair when it is offered?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"repair",
"barriers"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_118",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What helps you soften after feeling hurt?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"softening",
"hurt"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_119",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What helps me soften after feeling hurt?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"softening",
"reflection"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_120",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one area where resentment could grow if we stay quiet?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"resentment",
"prevention"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_121",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What conversation would help prevent that resentment?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"resentment",
"conversation"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_122",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one compromise that would feel fair instead of forced?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"compromise",
"fairness"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_123",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one compromise that would feel like self-abandonment?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"compromise",
"boundaries"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
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"id": "conflict_124",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one boundary that protects love during conflict?",
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"tags": [
"boundaries",
"love"
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_125",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one boundary that could become avoidance if we misuse it?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"boundaries",
"avoidance"
],
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"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_126",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "How can we tell the difference between a boundary and a wall?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"boundaries",
"walls"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_127",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one topic where we need outside support someday, not because we failed but because it matters?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"support",
"humility"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_128",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one conflict goal for the next month?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"goals",
"growth"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_129",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What progress would tell us we are arguing in healthier ways?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"progress",
"growth"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_130",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing I can practice during our next disagreement?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"practice",
"growth"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_131",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing you can practice during our next disagreement?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"practice",
"ownership"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_132",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What should we celebrate when we handle a conflict well?",
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"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"celebration",
"growth"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_133",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one conflict where we need to replace blame with responsibility?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"blame",
"responsibility"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_134",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What part of that responsibility belongs to me?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"responsibility",
"reflection"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_135",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What part of that responsibility belongs to you?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"responsibility",
"ownership"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_136",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one conflict where we need clearer expectations?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"expectations",
"clarity"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_137",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What expectation should we state plainly instead of assuming?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"expectations",
"clarity"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_138",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one conflict where timing keeps making things worse?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"timing",
"patterns"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_139",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What timing agreement would help us there?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"timing",
"agreement"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_140",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one conflict where tone keeps making things worse?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"tone",
"patterns"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_141",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What tone agreement would help us there?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"tone",
"agreement"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_142",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one conflict where old hurt keeps entering the room?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"old_hurt",
"patterns"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_143",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "How can we respect that old hurt without letting it run the whole conversation?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"old_hurt",
"repair"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_144",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing we need to forgive but not ignore?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"forgiveness",
"accountability"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_145",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one thing we need to remember but not weaponize?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"memory",
"safety"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_146",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way we can leave a hard conversation with dignity?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"dignity",
"closure"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_147",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What would help us end conflicts with a clear next step?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"next_steps",
"closure"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_148",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one promise about conflict that you want us to keep?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"promise",
"conflict"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_149",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What kind of partners do we want to become when we disagree?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"identity",
"future"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_150",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "written",
"text": "What is one way we can protect respect even when we strongly disagree?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"respect",
"strong_disagreement"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_length": 1,
"max_length": 1000,
"placeholder": "Write your answer..."
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_151",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "When conflict starts, what helps you most first?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"start",
"support"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "a_calmer_tone",
"text": "A calmer tone"
},
{
"id": "a_clear_pause",
"text": "A clear pause"
},
{
"id": "a_direct_question",
"text": "A direct question"
},
{
"id": "a_little_reassurance",
"text": "A little reassurance"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_152",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What usually escalates conflict fastest for you?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"escalation",
"triggers"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "feeling_blamed",
"text": "Feeling blamed"
},
{
"id": "feeling_ignored",
"text": "Feeling ignored"
},
{
"id": "feeling_rushed",
"text": "Feeling rushed"
},
{
"id": "feeling_misunderstood",
"text": "Feeling misunderstood"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_153",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What helps you hear feedback best?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"feedback",
"openness"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "specific_examples",
"text": "Specific examples"
},
{
"id": "gentle_tone",
"text": "Gentle tone"
},
{
"id": "time_to_think",
"text": "Time to think"
},
{
"id": "reassurance_first",
"text": "Reassurance first"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_154",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What makes an apology feel most sincere?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"apology",
"repair"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "clear_ownership",
"text": "Clear ownership"
},
{
"id": "changed_behavior",
"text": "Changed behavior"
},
{
"id": "emotional_warmth",
"text": "Emotional warmth"
},
{
"id": "no_excuses",
"text": "No excuses"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_155",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What do you need after an argument?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"after_conflict",
"needs"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "space",
"text": "Space"
},
{
"id": "comfort",
"text": "Comfort"
},
{
"id": "a_plan",
"text": "A plan"
},
{
"id": "a_normal_moment_together",
"text": "A normal moment together"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_156",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What is hardest during conflict?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"difficulty",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "staying_calm",
"text": "Staying calm"
},
{
"id": "being_honest",
"text": "Being honest"
},
{
"id": "not_shutting_down",
"text": "Not shutting down"
},
{
"id": "not_getting_defensive",
"text": "Not getting defensive"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_157",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What is your default conflict response?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"style",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "talk_more",
"text": "Talk more"
},
{
"id": "go_quiet",
"text": "Go quiet"
},
{
"id": "defend_myself",
"text": "Defend myself"
},
{
"id": "try_to_fix_it_fast",
"text": "Try to fix it fast"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_158",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What helps you come back after taking space?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"pause",
"return"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "a_specific_time",
"text": "A specific time"
},
{
"id": "a_gentle_message",
"text": "A gentle message"
},
{
"id": "a_calm_tone",
"text": "A calm tone"
},
{
"id": "a_clear_apology",
"text": "A clear apology"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_159",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What type of repair works best for you?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"repair",
"style"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "words",
"text": "Words"
},
{
"id": "actions",
"text": "Actions"
},
{
"id": "physical_closeness",
"text": "Physical closeness"
},
{
"id": "giving_it_time",
"text": "Giving it time"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_160",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What should we prioritize in conflict?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"priorities",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "understanding",
"text": "Understanding"
},
{
"id": "solving",
"text": "Solving"
},
{
"id": "calming_down",
"text": "Calming down"
},
{
"id": "feeling_close_again",
"text": "Feeling close again"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_161",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What should we avoid most during conflict?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"avoidance",
"boundaries"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "name_calling",
"text": "Name-calling"
},
{
"id": "old_arguments",
"text": "Old arguments"
},
{
"id": "threats",
"text": "Threats"
},
{
"id": "silent_punishment",
"text": "Silent punishment"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_162",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What helps you lower your guard?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"defensiveness",
"safety"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "kind_tone",
"text": "Kind tone"
},
{
"id": "owning_one_part",
"text": "Owning one part"
},
{
"id": "no_interruptions",
"text": "No interruptions"
},
{
"id": "a_slower_pace",
"text": "A slower pace"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_163",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What makes you feel attacked?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"attack",
"triggers"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "labels",
"text": "Labels"
},
{
"id": "raised_voice",
"text": "Raised voice"
},
{
"id": "assumptions",
"text": "Assumptions"
},
{
"id": "being_interrupted",
"text": "Being interrupted"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_164",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What makes you feel respected during disagreement?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"respect",
"disagreement"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "being_heard",
"text": "Being heard"
},
{
"id": "being_asked",
"text": "Being asked"
},
{
"id": "being_given_time",
"text": "Being given time"
},
{
"id": "being_taken_seriously",
"text": "Being taken seriously"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_165",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What is most useful when we are stuck?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"stuck",
"solutions"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "take_a_break",
"text": "Take a break"
},
{
"id": "name_the_real_issue",
"text": "Name the real issue"
},
{
"id": "ask_what_each_person_needs",
"text": "Ask what each person needs"
},
{
"id": "pick_one_next_step",
"text": "Pick one next step"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_166",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What is your biggest conflict growth area right now?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"growth",
"self_awareness"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "tone",
"text": "Tone"
},
{
"id": "timing",
"text": "Timing"
},
{
"id": "listening",
"text": "Listening"
},
{
"id": "accountability",
"text": "Accountability"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_167",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What kind of disagreement feels easiest to handle?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"ease",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "logistics",
"text": "Logistics"
},
{
"id": "plans",
"text": "Plans"
},
{
"id": "money",
"text": "Money"
},
{
"id": "feelings",
"text": "Feelings"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_168",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What kind of disagreement feels hardest to handle?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"hard_topics",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "logistics",
"text": "Logistics"
},
{
"id": "plans",
"text": "Plans"
},
{
"id": "money",
"text": "Money"
},
{
"id": "feelings",
"text": "Feelings"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_169",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What should we do when we both feel right?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"perspective",
"humility"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "slow_down",
"text": "Slow down"
},
{
"id": "list_both_needs",
"text": "List both needs"
},
{
"id": "find_shared_goal",
"text": "Find shared goal"
},
{
"id": "pause_and_return",
"text": "Pause and return"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_170",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What helps you accept influence?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"influence",
"openness"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "feeling_respected",
"text": "Feeling respected"
},
{
"id": "seeing_logic",
"text": "Seeing logic"
},
{
"id": "feeling_loved",
"text": "Feeling loved"
},
{
"id": "having_time",
"text": "Having time"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_171",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What most often hides under your anger?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"anger",
"emotion"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "hurt",
"text": "Hurt"
},
{
"id": "fear",
"text": "Fear"
},
{
"id": "stress",
"text": "Stress"
},
{
"id": "feeling_unseen",
"text": "Feeling unseen"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_172",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What most often hides under my anger?",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"anger",
"reflection"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "hurt",
"text": "Hurt"
},
{
"id": "fear",
"text": "Fear"
},
{
"id": "stress",
"text": "Stress"
},
{
"id": "feeling_unseen",
"text": "Feeling unseen"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_173",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What makes a pause feel safe?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"pause",
"safety"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "a_return_time",
"text": "A return time"
},
{
"id": "kind_words",
"text": "Kind words"
},
{
"id": "a_hug_first",
"text": "A hug first"
},
{
"id": "knowing_we_will_finish",
"text": "Knowing we will finish"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_174",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What makes a pause feel unsafe?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"pause",
"fear"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "no_return_time",
"text": "No return time"
},
{
"id": "cold_silence",
"text": "Cold silence"
},
{
"id": "leaving_suddenly",
"text": "Leaving suddenly"
},
{
"id": "ignoring_messages",
"text": "Ignoring messages"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_175",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What is the best place for a serious talk?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"setting",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "at_home",
"text": "At home"
},
{
"id": "on_a_walk",
"text": "On a walk"
},
{
"id": "in_the_car_parked",
"text": "In the car parked"
},
{
"id": "somewhere_neutral",
"text": "Somewhere neutral"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_176",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What is the worst time for a serious talk?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"timing",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "late_at_night",
"text": "Late at night"
},
{
"id": "before_work",
"text": "Before work"
},
{
"id": "when_hungry",
"text": "When hungry"
},
{
"id": "right_after_stress",
"text": "Right after stress"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_177",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What helps you stay on one topic?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"focus",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "writing_it_down",
"text": "Writing it down"
},
{
"id": "taking_turns",
"text": "Taking turns"
},
{
"id": "a_time_limit",
"text": "A time limit"
},
{
"id": "repeating_the_question",
"text": "Repeating the question"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_178",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What pulls us off topic fastest?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"focus",
"patterns"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "old_issues",
"text": "Old issues"
},
{
"id": "defending_details",
"text": "Defending details"
},
{
"id": "tone_arguments",
"text": "Tone arguments"
},
{
"id": "assumptions",
"text": "Assumptions"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_179",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What feels like real accountability?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"accountability",
"repair"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "naming_the_harm",
"text": "Naming the harm"
},
{
"id": "no_excuses",
"text": "No excuses"
},
{
"id": "changed_behavior",
"text": "Changed behavior"
},
{
"id": "checking_back_later",
"text": "Checking back later"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_180",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What feels like fake accountability?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"accountability",
"avoidance"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "quick_sorry",
"text": "Quick sorry"
},
{
"id": "blaming_stress",
"text": "Blaming stress"
},
{
"id": "changing_subject",
"text": "Changing subject"
},
{
"id": "acting_annoyed",
"text": "Acting annoyed"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_181",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What helps you believe repair is possible?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"repair",
"hope"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "consistency",
"text": "Consistency"
},
{
"id": "softness",
"text": "Softness"
},
{
"id": "humor",
"text": "Humor"
},
{
"id": "a_clear_plan",
"text": "A clear plan"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_182",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What usually blocks repair?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"repair",
"barriers"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "pride",
"text": "Pride"
},
{
"id": "exhaustion",
"text": "Exhaustion"
},
{
"id": "fear",
"text": "Fear"
},
{
"id": "still_feeling_unheard",
"text": "Still feeling unheard"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_183",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What should we do when one person cries?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"emotion",
"care"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "pause_and_comfort",
"text": "Pause and comfort"
},
{
"id": "keep_talking_gently",
"text": "Keep talking gently"
},
{
"id": "ask_what_is_needed",
"text": "Ask what is needed"
},
{
"id": "give_space",
"text": "Give space"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_184",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What should we do when one person raises their voice?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"tone",
"safety"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "pause",
"text": "Pause"
},
{
"id": "lower_voices",
"text": "Lower voices"
},
{
"id": "name_it_calmly",
"text": "Name it calmly"
},
{
"id": "take_space",
"text": "Take space"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_185",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What should we do when one person shuts down?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"shutdown",
"repair"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "pause",
"text": "Pause"
},
{
"id": "reassure",
"text": "Reassure"
},
{
"id": "ask_one_simple_question",
"text": "Ask one simple question"
},
{
"id": "return_later",
"text": "Return later"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_186",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What should we do when one person gets defensive?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"defensiveness",
"repair"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "slow_down",
"text": "Slow down"
},
{
"id": "own_one_part",
"text": "Own one part"
},
{
"id": "restate_the_concern",
"text": "Restate the concern"
},
{
"id": "ask_what_felt_unfair",
"text": "Ask what felt unfair"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_187",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What makes conflict feel like teamwork?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"teamwork",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "shared_goal",
"text": "Shared goal"
},
{
"id": "kind_tone",
"text": "Kind tone"
},
{
"id": "both_own_a_part",
"text": "Both own a part"
},
{
"id": "clear_next_step",
"text": "Clear next step"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_188",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What makes conflict feel like a battle?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"battle",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "winning_language",
"text": "Winning language"
},
{
"id": "threats",
"text": "Threats"
},
{
"id": "scorekeeping",
"text": "Scorekeeping"
},
{
"id": "mocking",
"text": "Mocking"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_189",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What helps us end a conflict well?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"closure",
"repair"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "a_summary",
"text": "A summary"
},
{
"id": "an_apology",
"text": "An apology"
},
{
"id": "a_hug",
"text": "A hug"
},
{
"id": "a_next_step",
"text": "A next step"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_190",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "single_choice",
"text": "What should happen after a big conflict?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"aftercare",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "check_in_later",
"text": "Check in later"
},
{
"id": "do_something_normal",
"text": "Do something normal"
},
{
"id": "revisit_the_agreement",
"text": "Revisit the agreement"
},
{
"id": "give_extra_kindness",
"text": "Give extra kindness"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_191",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which things help calm conflict? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"calm",
"tools"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "lower_voices",
"text": "Lower voices"
},
{
"id": "take_a_pause",
"text": "Take a pause"
},
{
"id": "name_the_real_issue",
"text": "Name the real issue"
},
{
"id": "use_kind_words",
"text": "Use kind words"
},
{
"id": "drink_water",
"text": "Drink water"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_192",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which behaviors make conflict worse? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"escalation",
"behaviors"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "interrupting",
"text": "Interrupting"
},
{
"id": "blaming",
"text": "Blaming"
},
{
"id": "bringing_up_old_issues",
"text": "Bringing up old issues"
},
{
"id": "sarcasm",
"text": "Sarcasm"
},
{
"id": "walking_away_without_return_time",
"text": "Walking away without return time"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_193",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which repair actions matter most to you? Select up to three.",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"repair",
"actions"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "clear_apology",
"text": "Clear apology"
},
{
"id": "changed_behavior",
"text": "Changed behavior"
},
{
"id": "reassurance",
"text": "Reassurance"
},
{
"id": "physical_affection",
"text": "Physical affection"
},
{
"id": "following_up_later",
"text": "Following up later"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_194",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which signs show you are getting overwhelmed? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"flooding",
"signals"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "going_quiet",
"text": "Going quiet"
},
{
"id": "talking_faster",
"text": "Talking faster"
},
{
"id": "tearing_up",
"text": "Tearing up"
},
{
"id": "wanting_to_leave",
"text": "Wanting to leave"
},
{
"id": "feeling_numb",
"text": "Feeling numb"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_195",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which signs show I may be getting overwhelmed? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"flooding",
"reflection"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "going_quiet",
"text": "Going quiet"
},
{
"id": "talking_faster",
"text": "Talking faster"
},
{
"id": "repeating_myself",
"text": "Repeating myself"
},
{
"id": "getting_sharp",
"text": "Getting sharp"
},
{
"id": "looking_away",
"text": "Looking away"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_196",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which topics need gentler timing? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"timing",
"topics"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "money",
"text": "Money"
},
{
"id": "family",
"text": "Family"
},
{
"id": "intimacy",
"text": "Intimacy"
},
{
"id": "plans",
"text": "Plans"
},
{
"id": "household_work",
"text": "Household work"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_197",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which rules should we use for hard talks? Select up to three.",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"rules",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "no_name_calling",
"text": "No name-calling"
},
{
"id": "one_topic_at_a_time",
"text": "One topic at a time"
},
{
"id": "pause_when_flooded",
"text": "Pause when flooded"
},
{
"id": "no_threats",
"text": "No threats"
},
{
"id": "return_after_a_break",
"text": "Return after a break"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_198",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which things help you receive feedback? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"feedback",
"openness"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "specific_examples",
"text": "Specific examples"
},
{
"id": "kind_tone",
"text": "Kind tone"
},
{
"id": "privacy",
"text": "Privacy"
},
{
"id": "time_to_process",
"text": "Time to process"
},
{
"id": "a_clear_request",
"text": "A clear request"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_199",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which things make feedback hard to hear? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"feedback",
"barriers"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "harsh_tone",
"text": "Harsh tone"
},
{
"id": "public_setting",
"text": "Public setting"
},
{
"id": "old_examples",
"text": "Old examples"
},
{
"id": "labels",
"text": "Labels"
},
{
"id": "no_appreciation",
"text": "No appreciation"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_200",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which feelings often show up under conflict? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"feelings",
"underneath"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "hurt",
"text": "Hurt"
},
{
"id": "fear",
"text": "Fear"
},
{
"id": "loneliness",
"text": "Loneliness"
},
{
"id": "stress",
"text": "Stress"
},
{
"id": "shame",
"text": "Shame"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_201",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which needs are often underneath our conflicts? Select up to three.",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"needs",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "respect",
"text": "Respect"
},
{
"id": "security",
"text": "Security"
},
{
"id": "help",
"text": "Help"
},
{
"id": "space",
"text": "Space"
},
{
"id": "appreciation",
"text": "Appreciation"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_202",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which conflict habits should we practice? Select up to three.",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"practice",
"growth"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "soft_start",
"text": "Soft start"
},
{
"id": "reflect_back",
"text": "Reflect back"
},
{
"id": "ask_for_needs",
"text": "Ask for needs"
},
{
"id": "take_pauses",
"text": "Take pauses"
},
{
"id": "repair_quickly",
"text": "Repair quickly"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_203",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which conflict habits should we reduce? Select up to three.",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"patterns",
"growth"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "interrupting",
"text": "Interrupting"
},
{
"id": "defending",
"text": "Defending"
},
{
"id": "shutting_down",
"text": "Shutting down"
},
{
"id": "scorekeeping",
"text": "Scorekeeping"
},
{
"id": "assuming_motives",
"text": "Assuming motives"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_204",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which forms of aftercare help after conflict? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"aftercare",
"repair"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "check_in_message",
"text": "Check-in message"
},
{
"id": "quiet_time_together",
"text": "Quiet time together"
},
{
"id": "hug",
"text": "Hug"
},
{
"id": "plan_change",
"text": "Plan change"
},
{
"id": "kind_routine",
"text": "Kind routine"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_205",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which words should we use more during conflict? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"language",
"repair"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "i_feel",
"text": "I feel"
},
{
"id": "i_need",
"text": "I need"
},
{
"id": "help_me_understand",
"text": "Help me understand"
},
{
"id": "i_hear_you",
"text": "I hear you"
},
{
"id": "can_we_pause",
"text": "Can we pause"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_206",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which words should we avoid during conflict? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"language",
"harm"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "always",
"text": "Always"
},
{
"id": "never",
"text": "Never"
},
{
"id": "whatever",
"text": "Whatever"
},
{
"id": "you_are_just_like",
"text": "You are just like"
},
{
"id": "i_do_not_care",
"text": "I do not care"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_207",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which things help us stay on the same team? Select up to three.",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"teamwork",
"connection"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "shared_goal",
"text": "Shared goal"
},
{
"id": "kind_tone",
"text": "Kind tone"
},
{
"id": "taking_turns",
"text": "Taking turns"
},
{
"id": "owning_impact",
"text": "Owning impact"
},
{
"id": "ending_with_a_next_step",
"text": "Ending with a next step"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_208",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which things make you feel unsafe in conflict? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 5,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"safety",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "yelling",
"text": "Yelling"
},
{
"id": "mocking",
"text": "Mocking"
},
{
"id": "threats",
"text": "Threats"
},
{
"id": "cold_silence",
"text": "Cold silence"
},
{
"id": "private_information_used_against_me",
"text": "Private information used against me"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_209",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which repair attempts are easy to miss? Select all that apply.",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"repair_attempts",
"noticing"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "a_softer_tone",
"text": "A softer tone"
},
{
"id": "a_joke",
"text": "A joke"
},
{
"id": "a_small_touch",
"text": "A small touch"
},
{
"id": "a_question",
"text": "A question"
},
{
"id": "doing_a_helpful_task",
"text": "Doing a helpful task"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 5
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_210",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "multi_choice",
"text": "Which outcomes would make conflict feel productive? Select up to three.",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"outcomes",
"productive_conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "feeling_heard",
"text": "Feeling heard"
},
{
"id": "clear_next_step",
"text": "Clear next step"
},
{
"id": "better_understanding",
"text": "Better understanding"
},
{
"id": "apology",
"text": "Apology"
},
{
"id": "less_fear_next_time",
"text": "Less fear next time"
}
],
"answer_config": {
"min_selections": 1,
"max_selections": 3
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_211",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How safe do you feel bringing up hard topics with me right now?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"safety",
"hard_topics"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Not safe",
"max_label": "Very safe",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_212",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How well do we pause before conflict gets too heated?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"pause",
"deescalation"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Poorly",
"max_label": "Very well",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_213",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How respectful does our tone feel during disagreement lately?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"tone",
"respect"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Not respectful",
"max_label": "Very respectful",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_214",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How quickly do we repair after conflict?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"repair",
"timing"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Not quickly",
"max_label": "Very quickly",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_215",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How heard do you feel during disagreements?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"listening",
"conflict"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Not heard",
"max_label": "Very heard",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_216",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How well do I take responsibility during conflict?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"accountability",
"reflection"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Not well",
"max_label": "Very well",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_217",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How well do you take responsibility during conflict?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"accountability",
"ownership"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Not well",
"max_label": "Very well",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_218",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How often do we stay on one topic during conflict?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"focus",
"conflict"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Rarely",
"max_label": "Very often",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_219",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How much do old arguments affect current disagreements?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"old_arguments",
"patterns"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Not much",
"max_label": "Very much",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_220",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How easy is it for us to apologize sincerely?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"apology",
"repair"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Hard",
"max_label": "Easy",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_221",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How easy is it for us to accept repair attempts?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"repair_attempts",
"acceptance"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Hard",
"max_label": "Easy",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_222",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How much does stress affect our conflict style?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"stress",
"conflict"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Not much",
"max_label": "Very much",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_223",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How confident are you that we can handle disagreement well?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"confidence",
"conflict"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Not confident",
"max_label": "Very confident",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_224",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How often do you feel blamed during conflict?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"blame",
"impact"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Rarely",
"max_label": "Very often",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_225",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How often do you feel respected during conflict?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"respect",
"impact"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Rarely",
"max_label": "Very often",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_226",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How much do we try to understand instead of win?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"understanding",
"winning"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Not much",
"max_label": "Very much",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_227",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How well do we handle pauses during conflict?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"pause",
"return"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Poorly",
"max_label": "Very well",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_228",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How emotionally close do you feel after we repair?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"closeness",
"repair"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Distant",
"max_label": "Close",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_229",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How clear are our conflict boundaries?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"boundaries",
"clarity"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Unclear",
"max_label": "Very clear",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_230",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How often do we use humor helpfully during tension?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"humor",
"tension"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Rarely",
"max_label": "Often",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_231",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How much do you trust our ability to talk through hard things?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"trust",
"conflict"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Not much",
"max_label": "Very much",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_232",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How well do we avoid hurtful words when upset?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"harm",
"self_control"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Poorly",
"max_label": "Very well",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_233",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How fair do our disagreements feel?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"fairness",
"conflict"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Unfair",
"max_label": "Fair",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_234",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How much progress have we made in conflict this year?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"progress",
"growth"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "None",
"max_label": "A lot",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_235",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "scale",
"text": "How ready are we to create a better conflict agreement?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"agreement",
"readiness"
],
"answer_config": {
"min_scale": 1,
"max_scale": 5,
"min_label": "Not ready",
"max_label": "Very ready",
"scale_step": 1
}
},
{
"id": "conflict_236",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Pause first or talk through it now?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"timing",
"pause"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "pause_first",
"text": "Pause first"
},
{
"id": "talk_now",
"text": "Talk now"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_237",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Comfort first or solution first?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"support",
"solutions"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "comfort_first",
"text": "Comfort first"
},
{
"id": "solution_first",
"text": "Solution first"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_238",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Gentle honesty or direct honesty?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"honesty",
"tone"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "gentle_honesty",
"text": "Gentle honesty"
},
{
"id": "direct_honesty",
"text": "Direct honesty"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_239",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Discuss at home or on a walk?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"setting",
"conflict"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "at_home",
"text": "At home"
},
{
"id": "on_a_walk",
"text": "On a walk"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_240",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Repair with words or repair with actions?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"repair",
"style"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "words",
"text": "Words"
},
{
"id": "actions",
"text": "Actions"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_241",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Name the issue or name the feeling first?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"clarity",
"emotion"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "issue_first",
"text": "Issue first"
},
{
"id": "feeling_first",
"text": "Feeling first"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_242",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Take space alone or sit quietly together?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"space",
"connection"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "space_alone",
"text": "Space alone"
},
{
"id": "quietly_together",
"text": "Quietly together"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_243",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Apologize first or explain first?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"apology",
"explanation"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "apologize_first",
"text": "Apologize first"
},
{
"id": "explain_first",
"text": "Explain first"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_244",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Focus on impact or focus on intent?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"impact",
"intent"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "impact",
"text": "Impact"
},
{
"id": "intent",
"text": "Intent"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_245",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Set a boundary or ask for reassurance?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"boundaries",
"reassurance"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "set_boundary",
"text": "Set boundary"
},
{
"id": "ask_reassurance",
"text": "Ask reassurance"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_246",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Let it cool down or resolve it tonight?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"timing",
"closure"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "cool_down",
"text": "Cool down"
},
{
"id": "resolve_tonight",
"text": "Resolve tonight"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_247",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Write it out or say it out loud?",
"depth": 2,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"expression",
"format"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "write_it_out",
"text": "Write it out"
},
{
"id": "say_it_out_loud",
"text": "Say it out loud"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_248",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Clarify expectations or accept differences?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"expectations",
"differences"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "clarify_expectations",
"text": "Clarify expectations"
},
{
"id": "accept_differences",
"text": "Accept differences"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_249",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Start with what hurt or start with what you need?",
"depth": 4,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"hurt",
"needs"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "what_hurt",
"text": "What hurt"
},
{
"id": "what_i_need",
"text": "What I need"
}
]
},
{
"id": "conflict_250",
"category_id": "conflict",
"type": "this_or_that",
"text": "Protect peace or address the issue?",
"depth": 3,
"access": "premium",
"tags": [
"peace",
"honesty"
],
"options": [
{
"id": "protect_peace",
"text": "Protect peace"
},
{
"id": "address_the_issue",
"text": "Address the issue"
}
]
}
]
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}