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# Closer Question Content Guide
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## Purpose
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This guide defines how Closer question packs should be written, reviewed, and validated.
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Closer is a private couples app. The questions should help two people feel closer through honest, warm, simple conversation. The app should not sound robotic, clinical, cheesy, judgmental, or like therapy homework.
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Use this guide before writing or rewriting any question JSON file.
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---
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# 1. The Closer Voice
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Closer should sound:
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- warm
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- private
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- plainspoken
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- emotionally honest
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- lightly playful when appropriate
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- easy to answer
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- respectful of both partners
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- safe and non-pressuring
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Closer should not sound:
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- robotic
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- overly formal
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- fake-deep
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- preachy
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- judgmental
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- clinical
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- like a therapist worksheet
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- like a corporate wellness app
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- sexually pushy
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- repetitive
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- awkwardly generated
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## Voice rule
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A good Closer question should sound like something a real person could comfortably ask their partner.
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Bad:
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```text
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What boundary around money boundaries would help you feel respected?
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```
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Better:
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```text
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What money boundary would help you feel more respected?
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```
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Best:
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```text
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What is one money habit we could agree on that would make things feel calmer between us?
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---
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# 2. Core Writing Standard
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Every question should pass this test:
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```bat
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ECHO Would a real couple actually answer this?
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ECHO Is it clear in one read?
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ECHO Does it sound natural out loud?
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ECHO Does it invite honesty without blaming either partner?
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ECHO Does it fit the pack topic?
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ECHO Does it avoid sounding like AI generated filler?
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```
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If the answer is no, rewrite it.
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# 3. Product Goal
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Questions should create moments like:
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Oh, that is easy to answer.
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That actually sounds like us.
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I never thought to ask that.
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That feels safe to say.
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That could start a good conversation.
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That makes me want to see my partner's answer.
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```
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Questions should not create moments like:
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```text
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What does this even mean?
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Why is this worded so strangely?
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This feels like therapy homework.
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This sounds too intense.
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This sounds too sexual too fast.
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This feels repetitive.
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This makes me feel accused.
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# 4. Category Purpose
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Every pack needs a clear purpose.
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Before writing a pack, define:
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```bat
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SET PACK_NAME=
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SET PACK_PURPOSE=
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SET USER_FEELING=
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SET RELATIONSHIP_OUTCOME=
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SET FREE_VALUE=
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SET PREMIUM_VALUE=
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Example:
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```bat
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SET PACK_NAME=Date Night
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SET PACK_PURPOSE=Help couples plan, enjoy, and remember time together.
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SET USER_FEELING=Playful, wanted, relaxed, connected.
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SET RELATIONSHIP_OUTCOME=More intentional time together without pressure.
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SET FREE_VALUE=Easy, fun, low-pressure date questions.
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SET PREMIUM_VALUE=Deeper romance, planning preferences, rut-breaking, and memory-making prompts.
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# 5. Question Depth Levels
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Use depth intentionally.
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## Light
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Light questions should be easy, fun, and low-pressure.
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Examples:
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What is a simple date we could do with almost no planning?
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What snack would make a movie night feel complete?
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Would you rather go out for dessert or stay in with a blanket?
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## Medium
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Medium questions should reveal preferences, needs, feelings, or patterns.
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Examples:
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```text
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What makes a night together feel special instead of routine?
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What helps you feel like I really want to spend time with you?
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What is one thing that would make date night easier for us to follow through on?
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## Deep
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Deep questions should invite vulnerability without pressure or blame.
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Examples:
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When have you felt most wanted by me, and what made it feel that way?
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What kind of attention from me makes you feel closest?
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What do you miss about the way we used to spend time together?
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## Depth rules
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ECHO Light questions should not feel shallow or useless.
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ECHO Medium questions should not feel like a confrontation.
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ECHO Deep questions should not feel like a trap.
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ECHO Sensitive questions should never pressure a partner to disclose, forgive, explain, or perform.
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---
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# 6. Question Types
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Each question type should have a purpose.
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## written
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Use for stories, memories, reflection, emotional honesty, and open-ended answers.
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Good written examples:
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What is one small thing I do that makes you feel cared for?
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What is a memory of us that still makes you smile?
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What is something you wish we made more time for?
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How can we deepen our connection?
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What is one thing we could do this week that would make us feel more like a team?
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## single_choice
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{ "id": "cozy_at_home", "text": "Cozy at home" },
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{ "id": "something_outside", "text": "Something outside" },
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ECHO Avoid more than 6 options unless truly needed.
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What is a tiny adventure we could do without spending much?
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What inside joke of ours still makes you laugh?
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What kind of date would feel easy but still special?
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What would make you feel like I planned the night with you in mind?
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What is one date we keep talking about but never actually do?
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## Boundaries packs
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Should feel respectful, calm, and non-accusing.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Use:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What is one thing you wish we handled more gently?
|
||||||
|
When you need alone time, what helps you feel understood instead of distant?
|
||||||
|
What is a small boundary that would make our home feel calmer?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Avoid:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What boundary around boundaries would support emotional safety?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Conflict packs
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Should feel safe, repair-focused, and not blaming.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Use:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
When we disagree, what helps you stay open instead of shutting down?
|
||||||
|
What is one thing I can do during an argument that would help us slow down?
|
||||||
|
What helps you feel like we are on the same team again?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Avoid:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What do I always do wrong during conflict?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Trust packs
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Should feel careful, honest, and non-punishing.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Use:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What small action helps you trust me more?
|
||||||
|
What makes an apology feel real to you?
|
||||||
|
What helps you feel reassured without feeling like you had to ask too much?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Avoid:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What have I done to make you unable to trust me?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Sex, desire, and physical intimacy packs
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Should feel adult, consent-based, respectful, optional, and never pushy.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Use:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What kind of affection helps you feel wanted without feeling pressured?
|
||||||
|
What helps you feel comfortable talking about desire with me?
|
||||||
|
What is one way I can make physical closeness feel safer and more relaxed?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Avoid:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What should I do to make sure you give me more sex?
|
||||||
|
What fantasy do you have to tell me tonight?
|
||||||
|
Why do you not want me more?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Sensitive packs should include:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```bat
|
||||||
|
ECHO Consent-first wording.
|
||||||
|
ECHO No pressure.
|
||||||
|
ECHO No shame.
|
||||||
|
ECHO No assumptions about gender roles.
|
||||||
|
ECHO No assumptions about sex drive.
|
||||||
|
ECHO No coercive language.
|
||||||
|
ECHO No questions that pressure disclosure of trauma.
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
# 10. Safety Rules
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Closer is not therapy, counseling, crisis support, or medical advice.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Questions must not:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```bat
|
||||||
|
ECHO Encourage staying in unsafe relationships.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Pressure forgiveness.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Minimize abuse.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Encourage sexual pressure.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Ask users to disclose trauma before they are ready.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Diagnose a partner.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Tell a partner what they owe.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Encourage monitoring, control, or isolation.
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Abuse-sensitive rule
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Avoid questions that frame controlling behavior as a normal boundary.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Bad:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What rule should we have about who your partner can talk to?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Better:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What helps you feel secure in our relationship while still respecting each other's independence?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Consent rule
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Bad:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
How can I get you to be more physically affectionate?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Better:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What kind of affection feels good to you when you are open to closeness?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
# 11. Wording Rules
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Keep questions short
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Aim for 8 to 22 words when possible.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Long questions are okay only when the topic needs softness or context.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Ask one thing at a time
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Bad:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What boundary do you need around family, money, friends, work, and rest so you feel loved and respected?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Better:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What family boundary would make our relationship feel more protected?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Avoid stacked emotional words
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Bad:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What would help you feel safe, seen, valued, loved, respected, and emotionally connected?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Better:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What helps you feel respected by me?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Avoid vague “more” questions
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Bad:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
How can we be more connected?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Better:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What is one thing we could do tonight to feel closer?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Avoid blame
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Bad:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What do I do that makes date night feel bad?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Better:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What tends to make date night harder for you to enjoy?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
# 12. JSON Quality Rules
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Every JSON file should pass these checks.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```bat
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] Valid JSON.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] Category id matches file purpose.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] Category title sounds user-facing.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] Category access matches actual free/premium strategy.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] Metadata counts match actual question counts.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] All question IDs are unique.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] All question texts are unique.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] No near-duplicate blocks.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] Type counts match metadata.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] Free/premium counts match metadata.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] Depth values are valid.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] Access values are valid.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] Options have unique IDs inside each question.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] Option IDs are neutral and clean.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] Scale labels are present when needed.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] No malformed keys like m a x _ l e n g t h.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] No placeholder text.
|
||||||
|
ECHO [ ] No accidental old gendered IDs unless intentionally used.
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Recommended access values:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
free
|
||||||
|
premium
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Recommended category access values:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
free
|
||||||
|
premium
|
||||||
|
mixed
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Recommended depth values:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
light
|
||||||
|
medium
|
||||||
|
deep
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Recommended question types:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
written
|
||||||
|
single_choice
|
||||||
|
multi_choice
|
||||||
|
scale
|
||||||
|
this_or_that
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
# 13. Pack Structure Recommendation
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
For a 250-question pack:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```bat
|
||||||
|
SET TOTAL_QUESTIONS=250
|
||||||
|
SET FREE_QUESTIONS=75
|
||||||
|
SET PREMIUM_QUESTIONS=175
|
||||||
|
SET WRITTEN=150
|
||||||
|
SET SINGLE_CHOICE=40
|
||||||
|
SET MULTI_CHOICE=20
|
||||||
|
SET SCALE=25
|
||||||
|
SET THIS_OR_THAT=15
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
This structure is acceptable if the current app expects those counts.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
But quality matters more than exact counts. If a pack cannot support 250 good questions without filler, reduce the pack or split it.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
# 14. Content Batching Process
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Do not write all 250 questions in one creative pass.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Use this process:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```bat
|
||||||
|
ECHO Step 1: Define pack purpose.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Step 2: Define subtopics.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Step 3: Write 40-50 high-quality questions.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Step 4: Review tone and repetition.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Step 5: Write the next batch.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Step 6: Add choice, scale, and this-or-that questions.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Step 7: Assign free/premium.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Step 8: Assign depth.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Step 9: Validate JSON.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Step 10: Read the full file like a user.
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
# 15. Subtopic Planning
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Each pack should have subtopics to prevent repetition.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Example for Date Night:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
easy dates
|
||||||
|
low-cost dates
|
||||||
|
at-home dates
|
||||||
|
going out
|
||||||
|
planning preferences
|
||||||
|
romance style
|
||||||
|
fun and play
|
||||||
|
food and drinks
|
||||||
|
music and movies
|
||||||
|
seasonal dates
|
||||||
|
surprises
|
||||||
|
feeling wanted
|
||||||
|
getting out of a rut
|
||||||
|
after-kids / busy life
|
||||||
|
date-night stress
|
||||||
|
memories
|
||||||
|
future date dreams
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Example for Boundaries:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
alone time
|
||||||
|
phone privacy
|
||||||
|
social media
|
||||||
|
family involvement
|
||||||
|
friendships
|
||||||
|
money
|
||||||
|
work time
|
||||||
|
rest
|
||||||
|
chores
|
||||||
|
home space
|
||||||
|
conflict
|
||||||
|
tone of voice
|
||||||
|
physical affection
|
||||||
|
private conversations
|
||||||
|
parenting/family roles
|
||||||
|
emotional bandwidth
|
||||||
|
plans and scheduling
|
||||||
|
personal belongings
|
||||||
|
sleep
|
||||||
|
stress
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
# 16. Repetition Check
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
A pack fails if it has blocks like this:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What boundary around alone time would help you feel respected?
|
||||||
|
What boundary around phone privacy would help you feel respected?
|
||||||
|
What boundary around family involvement would help you feel respected?
|
||||||
|
What boundary around friendships would help you feel respected?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Instead, each question should have its own angle.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Better:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
When you need alone time, how should I respond so it does not feel personal?
|
||||||
|
What phone privacy boundary would help us feel trusted instead of watched?
|
||||||
|
How involved should family be in decisions that affect just the two of us?
|
||||||
|
What helps friendships feel healthy without making our relationship feel pushed aside?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
# 17. Human Read-Aloud Test
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Before finalizing, read 25 random questions out loud.
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Reject questions that:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```bat
|
||||||
|
ECHO Sound stiff.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Sound embarrassing for the wrong reason.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Sound like a therapy script.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Sound too much like another question.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Take too long to understand.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Would make a normal couple roll their eyes.
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
# 18. Claude Instructions for Rewriting JSON Packs
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
When Claude rewrites a pack:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```bat
|
||||||
|
ECHO Read the existing JSON first.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Preserve required schema unless told otherwise.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Preserve required counts unless told otherwise.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Improve wording, variety, and product feel.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Do not create repetitive template blocks.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Do not use weird phrasing.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Do not overuse therapy language.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Do not make sensitive prompts coercive.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Validate the final JSON.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Report count totals.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Report any schema changes.
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
Claude should not say a file is done unless:
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```bat
|
||||||
|
ECHO The JSON parses.
|
||||||
|
ECHO The counts match.
|
||||||
|
ECHO IDs are unique.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Question texts are unique.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Free/premium counts match.
|
||||||
|
ECHO Type counts match.
|
||||||
|
ECHO The tone guide was followed.
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
---
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
# 19. Good Question Examples by Category
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Date Night
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What is a date we could plan this month that would feel easy but special?
|
||||||
|
What makes you feel like I really wanted time with you?
|
||||||
|
What kind of date helps you relax the fastest?
|
||||||
|
What is one date we should bring back?
|
||||||
|
What would make a regular night feel romantic?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Boundaries
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
When you need space, what helps you feel understood instead of distant?
|
||||||
|
What is one small boundary that would make our home feel calmer?
|
||||||
|
What topic do you wish we handled more gently?
|
||||||
|
What helps you feel trusted instead of checked up on?
|
||||||
|
What is one way we can protect our time together from outside stress?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Communication
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What helps you open up when something is bothering you?
|
||||||
|
When do you feel easiest to talk to me?
|
||||||
|
What is one thing I could say more often?
|
||||||
|
What makes a hard conversation feel safer?
|
||||||
|
What helps you know I am really listening?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Fun
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What is something silly we should do together soon?
|
||||||
|
What little adventure would make this week better?
|
||||||
|
What is an inside joke of ours that you still love?
|
||||||
|
What would make tonight feel less boring?
|
||||||
|
What is something we should try just because it sounds fun?
|
||||||
|
```
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
## Trust
|
||||||
|
|
||||||
|
```text
|
||||||
|
What small action helps you trust me more?
|
||||||
|
What makes an apology feel real to you?
|
||||||
|
What helps you feel reassured without having to ask twice?
|
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What is one promise that matters a lot to you?
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What helps us feel like we are on the same team?
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## Physical Intimacy
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What kind of affection helps you feel closest to me?
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When do you feel most comfortable being physically close?
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What helps touch feel relaxed instead of expected?
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What small affectionate habit would you like more of?
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What makes cuddling or closeness feel safe and easy?
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# 20. Final Standard
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A finished Closer question pack should feel:
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Human.
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Warm.
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Private.
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Clear.
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Useful.
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Specific.
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Respectful.
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Worth paying for.
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If a question does not help a couple feel closer, understand each other, laugh together, plan something, repair something, or feel safer with each other, it probably does not belong in Closer.
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