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"conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What helps you hear feedback best?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feedback", "openness" ], "options": [ { "id": "specific_examples", "text": "Specific examples" }, { "id": "gentle_tone", "text": "Gentle tone" }, { "id": "time_to_think", "text": "Time to think" }, { "id": "reassurance_first", "text": "Reassurance first" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_154", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes an apology feel most sincere?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "apology", "repair" ], "options": [ { "id": "clear_ownership", "text": "Clear ownership" }, { "id": "changed_behavior", "text": "Changed behavior" }, { "id": "emotional_warmth", "text": "Emotional warmth" }, { "id": "no_excuses", "text": "No excuses" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_155", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What do you need after an argument?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "after_conflict", "needs" ], "options": [ { "id": "space", "text": "Space" }, { "id": "comfort", "text": "Comfort" }, { "id": "a_plan", "text": "A plan" }, { "id": "a_normal_moment_together", "text": "A normal moment together" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_156", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is hardest during conflict?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "difficulty", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "staying_calm", "text": "Staying calm" }, { "id": "being_honest", "text": "Being honest" }, { "id": "not_shutting_down", "text": "Not shutting down" }, { "id": "not_getting_defensive", "text": "Not getting defensive" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_157", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is your default conflict response?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "style", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "talk_more", "text": "Talk more" }, { "id": "go_quiet", "text": "Go quiet" }, { "id": "defend_myself", "text": "Defend myself" }, { "id": "try_to_fix_it_fast", "text": "Try to fix it fast" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_158", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What helps you come back after taking space?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "pause", "return" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_specific_time", "text": "A specific time" }, { "id": "a_gentle_message", "text": "A gentle message" }, { "id": "a_calm_tone", "text": "A calm tone" }, { "id": "a_clear_apology", "text": "A clear apology" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_159", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What type of repair works best for you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "repair", "style" ], "options": [ { "id": "words", "text": "Words" }, { "id": "actions", "text": "Actions" }, { "id": "physical_closeness", "text": "Physical closeness" }, { "id": "giving_it_time", "text": "Giving it time" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_160", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should we prioritize in conflict?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "priorities", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "understanding", "text": "Understanding" }, { "id": "solving", "text": "Solving" }, { "id": "calming_down", "text": "Calming down" }, { "id": "feeling_close_again", "text": "Feeling close again" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_161", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should we avoid most during conflict?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "avoidance", "boundaries" ], "options": [ { "id": "name_calling", "text": "Name-calling" }, { "id": "old_arguments", "text": "Old arguments" }, { "id": "threats", "text": "Threats" }, { "id": "silent_punishment", "text": "Silent punishment" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_162", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What helps you lower your guard?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "defensiveness", "safety" ], "options": [ { "id": "kind_tone", "text": "Kind tone" }, { "id": "owning_one_part", "text": "Owning one part" }, { "id": "no_interruptions", "text": "No interruptions" }, { "id": "a_slower_pace", "text": "A slower pace" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_163", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes you feel attacked?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "attack", "triggers" ], "options": [ { "id": "labels", "text": "Labels" }, { "id": "raised_voice", "text": "Raised voice" }, { "id": "assumptions", "text": "Assumptions" }, { "id": "being_interrupted", "text": "Being interrupted" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_164", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes you feel respected during disagreement?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "respect", "disagreement" ], "options": [ { "id": "being_heard", "text": "Being heard" }, { "id": "being_asked", "text": "Being asked" }, { "id": "being_given_time", "text": "Being given time" }, { "id": "being_taken_seriously", "text": "Being taken seriously" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_165", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is most useful when we are stuck?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stuck", "solutions" ], "options": [ { "id": "take_a_break", "text": "Take a break" }, { "id": "name_the_real_issue", "text": "Name the real issue" }, { "id": "ask_what_each_person_needs", "text": "Ask what each person needs" }, { "id": "pick_one_next_step", "text": "Pick one next step" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_166", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is your biggest conflict growth area right now?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "growth", "self_awareness" ], "options": [ { "id": "tone", "text": "Tone" }, { "id": "timing", "text": "Timing" }, { "id": "listening", "text": "Listening" }, { "id": "accountability", "text": "Accountability" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_167", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What kind of disagreement feels easiest to handle?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "ease", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "logistics", "text": "Logistics" }, { "id": "plans", "text": "Plans" }, { "id": "money", "text": "Money" }, { "id": "feelings", "text": "Feelings" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_168", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What kind of disagreement feels hardest to handle?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "hard_topics", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "logistics", "text": "Logistics" }, { "id": "plans", "text": "Plans" }, { "id": "money", "text": "Money" }, { "id": "feelings", "text": "Feelings" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_169", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should we do when we both feel right?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "perspective", "humility" ], "options": [ { "id": "slow_down", "text": "Slow down" }, { "id": "list_both_needs", "text": "List both needs" }, { "id": "find_shared_goal", "text": "Find shared goal" }, { "id": "pause_and_return", "text": "Pause and return" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_170", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What helps you accept influence?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "influence", "openness" ], "options": [ { "id": "feeling_respected", "text": "Feeling respected" }, { "id": "seeing_logic", "text": "Seeing logic" }, { "id": "feeling_loved", "text": "Feeling loved" }, { "id": "having_time", "text": "Having time" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_171", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What most often hides under your anger?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "anger", "emotion" ], "options": [ { "id": "hurt", "text": "Hurt" }, { "id": "fear", "text": "Fear" }, { "id": "stress", "text": "Stress" }, { "id": "feeling_unseen", "text": "Feeling unseen" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_172", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What most often hides under my anger?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "anger", "reflection" ], "options": [ { "id": "hurt", "text": "Hurt" }, { "id": "fear", "text": "Fear" }, { "id": "stress", "text": "Stress" }, { "id": "feeling_unseen", "text": "Feeling unseen" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_173", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes a pause feel safe?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "pause", "safety" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_return_time", "text": "A return time" }, { "id": "kind_words", "text": "Kind words" }, { "id": "a_hug_first", "text": "A hug first" }, { "id": "knowing_we_will_finish", "text": "Knowing we will finish" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_174", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes a pause feel unsafe?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "pause", "fear" ], "options": [ { "id": "no_return_time", "text": "No return time" }, { "id": "cold_silence", "text": "Cold silence" }, { "id": "leaving_suddenly", "text": "Leaving suddenly" }, { "id": "ignoring_messages", "text": "Ignoring messages" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_175", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is the best place for a serious talk?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "setting", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "at_home", "text": "At home" }, { "id": "on_a_walk", "text": "On a walk" }, { "id": "in_the_car_parked", "text": "In the car parked" }, { "id": "somewhere_neutral", "text": "Somewhere neutral" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_176", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is the worst time for a serious talk?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "timing", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "late_at_night", "text": "Late at night" }, { "id": "before_work", "text": "Before work" }, { "id": "when_hungry", "text": "When hungry" }, { "id": "right_after_stress", "text": "Right after stress" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_177", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What helps you stay on one topic?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "focus", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "writing_it_down", "text": "Writing it down" }, { "id": "taking_turns", "text": "Taking turns" }, { "id": "a_time_limit", "text": "A time limit" }, { "id": "repeating_the_question", "text": "Repeating the question" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_178", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What pulls us off topic fastest?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "focus", "patterns" ], "options": [ { "id": "old_issues", "text": "Old issues" }, { "id": "defending_details", "text": "Defending details" }, { "id": "tone_arguments", "text": "Tone arguments" }, { "id": "assumptions", "text": "Assumptions" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_179", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What feels like real accountability?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "accountability", "repair" ], "options": [ { "id": "naming_the_harm", "text": "Naming the harm" }, { "id": "no_excuses", "text": "No excuses" }, { "id": "changed_behavior", "text": "Changed behavior" }, { "id": "checking_back_later", "text": "Checking back later" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_180", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What feels like fake accountability?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "accountability", "avoidance" ], "options": [ { "id": "quick_sorry", "text": "Quick sorry" }, { "id": "blaming_stress", "text": "Blaming stress" }, { "id": "changing_subject", "text": "Changing subject" }, { "id": "acting_annoyed", "text": "Acting annoyed" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_181", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What helps you believe repair is possible?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "repair", "hope" ], "options": [ { "id": "consistency", "text": "Consistency" }, { "id": "softness", "text": "Softness" }, { "id": "humor", "text": "Humor" }, { "id": "a_clear_plan", "text": "A clear plan" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_182", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What usually blocks repair?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "repair", "barriers" ], "options": [ { "id": "pride", "text": "Pride" }, { "id": "exhaustion", "text": "Exhaustion" }, { "id": "fear", "text": "Fear" }, { "id": "still_feeling_unheard", "text": "Still feeling unheard" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_183", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should we do when one person cries?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "emotion", "care" ], "options": [ { "id": "pause_and_comfort", "text": "Pause and comfort" }, { "id": "keep_talking_gently", "text": "Keep talking gently" }, { "id": "ask_what_is_needed", "text": "Ask what is needed" }, { "id": "give_space", "text": "Give space" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_184", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should we do when one person raises their voice?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "tone", "safety" ], "options": [ { "id": "pause", "text": "Pause" }, { "id": "lower_voices", "text": "Lower voices" }, { "id": "name_it_calmly", "text": "Name it calmly" }, { "id": "take_space", "text": "Take space" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_185", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should we do when one person shuts down?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "shutdown", "repair" ], "options": [ { "id": "pause", "text": "Pause" }, { "id": "reassure", "text": "Reassure" }, { "id": "ask_one_simple_question", "text": "Ask one simple question" }, { "id": "return_later", "text": "Return later" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_186", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should we do when one person gets defensive?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "defensiveness", "repair" ], "options": [ { "id": "slow_down", "text": "Slow down" }, { "id": "own_one_part", "text": "Own one part" }, { "id": "restate_the_concern", "text": "Restate the concern" }, { "id": "ask_what_felt_unfair", "text": "Ask what felt unfair" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_187", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes conflict feel like teamwork?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "teamwork", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "shared_goal", "text": "Shared goal" }, { "id": "kind_tone", "text": "Kind tone" }, { "id": "both_own_a_part", "text": "Both own a part" }, { "id": "clear_next_step", "text": "Clear next step" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_188", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes conflict feel like a battle?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "battle", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "winning_language", "text": "Winning language" }, { "id": "threats", "text": "Threats" }, { "id": "scorekeeping", "text": "Scorekeeping" }, { "id": "mocking", "text": "Mocking" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_189", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What helps us end a conflict well?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "closure", "repair" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_summary", "text": "A summary" }, { "id": "an_apology", "text": "An apology" }, { "id": "a_hug", "text": "A hug" }, { "id": "a_next_step", "text": "A next step" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_190", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should happen after a big conflict?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "check_in_later", "text": "Check in later" }, { "id": "do_something_normal", "text": "Do something normal" }, { "id": "revisit_the_agreement", "text": "Revisit the agreement" }, { "id": "give_extra_kindness", "text": "Give extra kindness" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_191", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things help calm conflict? Select all that apply.", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "calm", "tools" ], "options": [ { "id": "lower_voices", "text": "Lower voices" }, { "id": "take_a_pause", "text": "Take a pause" }, { "id": "name_the_real_issue", "text": "Name the real issue" }, { "id": "use_kind_words", "text": "Use kind words" }, { "id": "drink_water", "text": "Drink water" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_192", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which behaviors make conflict worse? Select all that apply.", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "escalation", "behaviors" ], "options": [ { "id": "interrupting", "text": "Interrupting" }, { "id": "blaming", "text": "Blaming" }, { "id": "bringing_up_old_issues", "text": "Bringing up old issues" }, { "id": "sarcasm", "text": "Sarcasm" }, { "id": "walking_away_without_return_time", "text": "Walking away without return time" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_193", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which repair actions matter most to you? Select up to three.", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "repair", "actions" ], "options": [ { "id": "clear_apology", "text": "Clear apology" }, { "id": "changed_behavior", "text": "Changed behavior" }, { "id": "reassurance", "text": "Reassurance" }, { "id": "physical_affection", "text": "Physical affection" }, { "id": "following_up_later", "text": "Following up later" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "conflict_194", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs show you are getting overwhelmed? Select all that apply.", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "flooding", "signals" ], "options": [ { "id": "going_quiet", "text": "Going quiet" }, { "id": "talking_faster", "text": "Talking faster" }, { "id": "tearing_up", "text": "Tearing up" }, { "id": "wanting_to_leave", "text": "Wanting to leave" }, { "id": "feeling_numb", "text": "Feeling numb" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_195", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs show I may be getting overwhelmed? Select all that apply.", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "flooding", "reflection" ], "options": [ { "id": "going_quiet", "text": "Going quiet" }, { "id": "talking_faster", "text": "Talking faster" }, { "id": "repeating_myself", "text": "Repeating myself" }, { "id": "getting_sharp", "text": "Getting sharp" }, { "id": "looking_away", "text": "Looking away" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_196", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which topics need gentler timing? Select all that apply.", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "timing", "topics" ], "options": [ { "id": "money", "text": "Money" }, { "id": "family", "text": "Family" }, { "id": "intimacy", "text": "Intimacy" }, { "id": "plans", "text": "Plans" }, { "id": "household_work", "text": "Household work" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_197", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which rules should we use for hard talks? Select up to three.", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "rules", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "no_name_calling", "text": "No name-calling" }, { "id": "one_topic_at_a_time", "text": "One topic at a time" }, { "id": "pause_when_flooded", "text": "Pause when flooded" }, { "id": "no_threats", "text": "No threats" }, { "id": "return_after_a_break", "text": "Return after a break" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "conflict_198", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things help you receive feedback? Select all that apply.", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feedback", "openness" ], "options": [ { "id": "specific_examples", "text": "Specific examples" }, { "id": "kind_tone", "text": "Kind tone" }, { "id": "privacy", "text": "Privacy" }, { "id": "time_to_process", "text": "Time to process" }, { "id": "a_clear_request", "text": "A clear request" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_199", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things make feedback hard to hear? Select all that apply.", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feedback", "barriers" ], "options": [ { "id": "harsh_tone", "text": "Harsh tone" }, { "id": "public_setting", "text": "Public setting" }, { "id": "old_examples", "text": "Old examples" }, { "id": "labels", "text": "Labels" }, { "id": "no_appreciation", "text": "No appreciation" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_200", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which feelings often show up under conflict? Select all that apply.", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feelings", "underneath" ], "options": [ { "id": "hurt", "text": "Hurt" }, { "id": "fear", "text": "Fear" }, { "id": "loneliness", "text": "Loneliness" }, { "id": "stress", "text": "Stress" }, { "id": "shame", "text": "Shame" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_201", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which needs are often underneath our conflicts? Select up to three.", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "needs", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "respect", "text": "Respect" }, { "id": "security", "text": "Security" }, { "id": "help", "text": "Help" }, { "id": "space", "text": "Space" }, { "id": "appreciation", "text": "Appreciation" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "conflict_202", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which conflict habits should we practice? Select up to three.", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "practice", "growth" ], "options": [ { "id": "soft_start", "text": "Soft start" }, { "id": "reflect_back", "text": "Reflect back" }, { "id": "ask_for_needs", "text": "Ask for needs" }, { "id": "take_pauses", "text": "Take pauses" }, { "id": "repair_quickly", "text": "Repair quickly" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "conflict_203", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which conflict habits should we reduce? Select up to three.", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "patterns", "growth" ], "options": [ { "id": "interrupting", "text": "Interrupting" }, { "id": "defending", "text": "Defending" }, { "id": "shutting_down", "text": "Shutting down" }, { "id": "scorekeeping", "text": "Scorekeeping" }, { "id": "assuming_motives", "text": "Assuming motives" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "conflict_204", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which forms of aftercare help after conflict? Select all that apply.", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "aftercare", "repair" ], "options": [ { "id": "check_in_message", "text": "Check-in message" }, { "id": "quiet_time_together", "text": "Quiet time together" }, { "id": "hug", "text": "Hug" }, { "id": "plan_change", "text": "Plan change" }, { "id": "kind_routine", "text": "Kind routine" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_205", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which words should we use more during conflict? Select all that apply.", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "language", "repair" ], "options": [ { "id": "i_feel", "text": "I feel" }, { "id": "i_need", "text": "I need" }, { "id": "help_me_understand", "text": "Help me understand" }, { "id": "i_hear_you", "text": "I hear you" }, { "id": "can_we_pause", "text": "Can we pause" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_206", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which words should we avoid during conflict? Select all that apply.", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "language", "harm" ], "options": [ { "id": "always", "text": "Always" }, { "id": "never", "text": "Never" }, { "id": "whatever", "text": "Whatever" }, { "id": "you_are_just_like", "text": "You are just like" }, { "id": "i_do_not_care", "text": "I do not care" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_207", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things help us stay on the same team? Select up to three.", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "teamwork", "connection" ], "options": [ { "id": "shared_goal", "text": "Shared goal" }, { "id": "kind_tone", "text": "Kind tone" }, { "id": "taking_turns", "text": "Taking turns" }, { "id": "owning_impact", "text": "Owning impact" }, { "id": "ending_with_a_next_step", "text": "Ending with a next step" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "conflict_208", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things make you feel unsafe in conflict? Select all that apply.", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "safety", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "yelling", "text": "Yelling" }, { "id": "mocking", "text": "Mocking" }, { "id": "threats", "text": "Threats" }, { "id": "cold_silence", "text": "Cold silence" }, { "id": "private_information_used_against_me", "text": "Private information used against me" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_209", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which repair attempts are easy to miss? Select all that apply.", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "repair_attempts", "noticing" ], "options": [ { "id": "a_softer_tone", "text": "A softer tone" }, { "id": "a_joke", "text": "A joke" }, { "id": "a_small_touch", "text": "A small touch" }, { "id": "a_question", "text": "A question" }, { "id": "doing_a_helpful_task", "text": "Doing a helpful task" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 5 } }, { "id": "conflict_210", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which outcomes would make conflict feel productive? Select up to three.", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "outcomes", "productive_conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "feeling_heard", "text": "Feeling heard" }, { "id": "clear_next_step", "text": "Clear next step" }, { "id": "better_understanding", "text": "Better understanding" }, { "id": "apology", "text": "Apology" }, { "id": "less_fear_next_time", "text": "Less fear next time" } ], "answer_config": { "min_selections": 1, "max_selections": 3 } }, { "id": "conflict_211", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How safe do you feel bringing up hard topics with me right now?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "safety", "hard_topics" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Not safe", "max_label": "Very safe", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_212", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How well do we pause before conflict gets too heated?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "pause", "deescalation" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Poorly", "max_label": "Very well", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_213", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How respectful does our tone feel during disagreement lately?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "tone", "respect" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Not respectful", "max_label": "Very respectful", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_214", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How quickly do we repair after conflict?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "repair", "timing" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Not quickly", "max_label": "Very quickly", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_215", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How heard do you feel during disagreements?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "listening", "conflict" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Not heard", "max_label": "Very heard", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_216", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How well do I take responsibility during conflict?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "accountability", "reflection" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Not well", "max_label": "Very well", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_217", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How well do you take responsibility during conflict?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "accountability", "ownership" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Not well", "max_label": "Very well", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_218", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How often do we stay on one topic during conflict?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "focus", "conflict" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Rarely", "max_label": "Very often", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_219", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How much do old arguments affect current disagreements?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "old_arguments", "patterns" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Not much", "max_label": "Very much", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_220", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How easy is it for us to apologize sincerely?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "apology", "repair" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Hard", "max_label": "Easy", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_221", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How easy is it for us to accept repair attempts?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "repair_attempts", "acceptance" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Hard", "max_label": "Easy", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_222", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How much does stress affect our conflict style?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stress", "conflict" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Not much", "max_label": "Very much", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_223", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How confident are you that we can handle disagreement well?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "confidence", "conflict" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Not confident", "max_label": "Very confident", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_224", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How often do you feel blamed during conflict?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "blame", "impact" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Rarely", "max_label": "Very often", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_225", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How often do you feel respected during conflict?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "respect", "impact" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Rarely", "max_label": "Very often", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_226", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How much do we try to understand instead of win?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "understanding", "winning" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Not much", "max_label": "Very much", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_227", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How well do we handle pauses during conflict?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "pause", "return" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Poorly", "max_label": "Very well", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_228", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How emotionally close do you feel after we repair?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "closeness", "repair" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Distant", "max_label": "Close", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_229", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How clear are our conflict boundaries?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "boundaries", "clarity" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Unclear", "max_label": "Very clear", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_230", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How often do we use humor helpfully during tension?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "humor", "tension" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Rarely", "max_label": "Often", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_231", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How much do you trust our ability to talk through hard things?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "trust", "conflict" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Not much", "max_label": "Very much", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_232", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How well do we avoid hurtful words when upset?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "harm", "self_control" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Poorly", "max_label": "Very well", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_233", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How fair do our disagreements feel?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "fairness", "conflict" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Unfair", "max_label": "Fair", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_234", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How much progress have we made in conflict this year?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "progress", "growth" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "None", "max_label": "A lot", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_235", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "scale", "text": "How ready are we to create a better conflict agreement?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "agreement", "readiness" ], "answer_config": { "min_scale": 1, "max_scale": 5, "min_label": "Not ready", "max_label": "Very ready", "scale_step": 1 } }, { "id": "conflict_236", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Pause first or talk through it now?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "timing", "pause" ], "options": [ { "id": "pause_first", "text": "Pause first" }, { "id": "talk_now", "text": "Talk now" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_237", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Comfort first or solution first?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "support", "solutions" ], "options": [ { "id": "comfort_first", "text": "Comfort first" }, { "id": "solution_first", "text": "Solution first" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_238", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Gentle honesty or direct honesty?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "honesty", "tone" ], "options": [ { "id": "gentle_honesty", "text": "Gentle honesty" }, { "id": "direct_honesty", "text": "Direct honesty" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_239", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Discuss at home or on a walk?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "setting", "conflict" ], "options": [ { "id": "at_home", "text": "At home" }, { "id": "on_a_walk", "text": "On a walk" } ] }, { "id": "conflict_240", "category_id": "conflict", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Repair with words or repair with actions?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "repair", "style" ], "options": [ { "id": "words", "text": "Words" }, { "id": "actions", "text": "Actions" } ] }, { "id": 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