{ "category": { "id": "sex_and_desire", "display_name": "Sex & Desire", "description": "Adult, playful, consent-first questions about feeling wanted, flirting, initiation, desire rhythms, mismatched moods, sexual confidence, communication, and keeping long-term chemistry alive.", "access": "mixed", "icon_name": "favorite", "schema_version": "question_v2", "metadata": { "total_questions": 150, "free_questions": 45, "premium_questions": 105, "type_counts": { "written": 5, "single_choice": 30, "multi_choice": 90, "scale": 15, "this_or_that": 10 }, "depth_counts": { "1": 10, "2": 38, "3": 53, "4": 40, "5": 9 }, "light_depth_questions": 48, "light_depth_percentage": 32.0, "content_version": "sex_and_desire_focused_rebuild_v3", "batch_size": 15, "review_policy": "Ten 15-question batches with batch-level option-fit, repetition, consent, pack-boundary, and full-pack validation.", "mass_rewrite_exception": "Approved rebuild: the source had 344 questions, 212 written prompts, repeated desire themes, and substantial overlap with neighboring intimacy packs.", "related_pack_boundary": "Owns desire dynamics: feeling wanted, flirtation as a desire signal, initiation, desire rhythms, stress, mismatch, sexual confidence, consent communication, change over time, and long-term chemistry. Specific acts and activity preferences belong in sexual_preferences; everyday nonsexual touch belongs in physical_intimacy; broader sexual intimacy and aftercare belong in couple_intimacy.", "source_question_count": 344, "source_written_count": 212, "final_validation": "pass" } }, "questions": [ { "id": "sex_and_desire_001", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things make you feel genuinely wanted by me?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "focused_attention", "text": "Focused attention" }, { "id": "a_confident_invitation", "text": "A confident invitation" }, { "id": "a_specific_compliment", "text": "A specific compliment" }, { "id": "feeling_pursued_during_the_day", "text": "Feeling pursued during the day" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_002", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which signal most clearly says I am attracted to you?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "the_way_i_look_at_you", "text": "The way I look at you" }, { "id": "the_way_i_talk_to_you", "text": "The way I talk to you" }, { "id": "making_time_for_us", "text": "Making time for us" }, { "id": "saying_it_directly", "text": "Saying it directly" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_003", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes attraction feel personal instead of automatic?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "noticing_something_specific_about_me", "text": "Noticing something specific about me" }, { "id": "choosing_me_when_life_is_busy", "text": "Choosing me when life is busy" }, { "id": "remembering_what_makes_me_light_up", "text": "Remembering what makes me light up" }, { "id": "letting_the_interest_build", "text": "Letting the interest build" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_004", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How wanted have you felt by me lately?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not much lately", "max_label": "Very much lately" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_005", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Feeling pursued or feeling irresistible?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "feeling_pursued", "text": "Feeling pursued" }, { "id": "feeling_irresistible", "text": "Feeling irresistible" }, { "id": "a_little_of_both", "text": "A little of both" }, { "id": "it_depends_on_the_day", "text": "It depends on the day" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_006", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which moments make you feel chosen, not just available?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "when_i_make_the_first_move", "text": "When I make the first move" }, { "id": "when_i_protect_time_for_us", "text": "When I protect time for us" }, { "id": "when_i_notice_your_mood", "text": "When I notice your mood" }, { "id": "when_i_show_desire_without_expecting_anything", "text": "When I show desire without expecting anything" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_007", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you want reassurance about my desire, what lands best?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "clear_words", "text": "Clear words" }, { "id": "undivided_attention", "text": "Undivided attention" }, { "id": "a_planned_private_moment", "text": "A planned private moment" }, { "id": "a_spontaneous_show_of_interest", "text": "A spontaneous show of interest" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_008", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can quietly drain the feeling of being desired?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "feeling_taken_for_granted", "text": "Feeling taken for granted" }, { "id": "only_being_approached_at_the_last_minute", "text": "Only being approached at the last minute" }, { "id": "affection_that_always_has_an_agenda", "text": "Affection that always has an agenda" }, { "id": "never_hearing_what_attracts_you", "text": "Never hearing what attracts you" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_009", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which kinds of attention make you feel sexy without putting you on the spot?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_private_compliment", "text": "A private compliment" }, { "id": "a_lingering_look", "text": "A lingering look" }, { "id": "a_playful_message", "text": "A playful message" }, { "id": "being_given_room_to_respond", "text": "Being given room to respond" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_010", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes desire from me feel believable?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_show_it_consistently", "text": "You show it consistently" }, { "id": "you_say_what_attracts_you", "text": "You say what attracts you" }, { "id": "you_seem_confident", "text": "You seem confident" }, { "id": "you_give_me_time_to_respond", "text": "You give me time to respond" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_011", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How easy is it for you to believe me when I say I want you?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Hard to believe", "max_label": "Easy to believe" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_012", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you receive attention without wondering what is expected next?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "no_pressure_to_match_the_mood", "text": "No pressure to match the mood" }, { "id": "a_clear_chance_to_say_no", "text": "A clear chance to say no" }, { "id": "affection_that_can_stay_affectionate", "text": "Affection that can stay affectionate" }, { "id": "trust_that_disappointment_will_be_handled_well", "text": "Trust that disappointment will be handled well" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_013", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which everyday moments can carry real sexual energy for you?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "catching_each_other_s_eye", "text": "Catching each other's eye" }, { "id": "a_private_joke", "text": "A private joke" }, { "id": "being_openly_admired", "text": "Being openly admired" }, { "id": "knowing_we_have_time_later", "text": "Knowing we have time later" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_014", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which feeling most often opens the door to desire for you?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "feeling_wanted", "text": "Feeling wanted" }, { "id": "feeling_relaxed", "text": "Feeling relaxed" }, { "id": "feeling_emotionally_close", "text": "Feeling emotionally close" }, { "id": "feeling_playful", "text": "Feeling playful" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_015", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What would make our attraction feel less assumed and more alive?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feeling_wanted", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "more_direct_compliments", "text": "More direct compliments" }, { "id": "more_build_up_during_the_day", "text": "More build-up during the day" }, { "id": "more_protected_private_time", "text": "More protected private time" }, { "id": "more_curiosity_about_each_other", "text": "More curiosity about each other" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_016", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps flirting get through on a busy day?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_is_brief_and_clear", "text": "It is brief and clear" }, { "id": "it_sounds_like_us", "text": "It sounds like us" }, { "id": "it_builds_anticipation", "text": "It builds anticipation" }, { "id": "it_asks_nothing_right_away", "text": "It asks nothing right away" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_017", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What gives flirting the best chance of landing?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "good_timing", "text": "Good timing" }, { "id": "a_confident_tone", "text": "A confident tone" }, { "id": "knowing_there_is_no_pressure", "text": "Knowing there is no pressure" }, { "id": "feeling_connected_first", "text": "Feeling connected first" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_018", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes anticipation fun instead of distracting?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "keeping_it_subtle", "text": "Keeping it subtle" }, { "id": "knowing_the_plan_can_change", "text": "Knowing the plan can change" }, { "id": "having_real_privacy_later", "text": "Having real privacy later" }, { "id": "both_of_us_playing_along", "text": "Both of us playing along" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_019", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Slow build or obvious interest?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "slow_build", "text": "Slow build" }, { "id": "obvious_interest", "text": "Obvious interest" }, { "id": "start_subtle_then_be_clear", "text": "Start subtle, then be clear" }, { "id": "whichever_fits_the_mood", "text": "Whichever fits the mood" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_020", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which flirting habits are worth bringing back more often?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "inside_jokes_with_an_edge", "text": "Inside jokes with an edge" }, { "id": "compliments_that_feel_specific", "text": "Compliments that feel specific" }, { "id": "messages_that_build_anticipation", "text": "Messages that build anticipation" }, { "id": "making_our_interest_obvious", "text": "Making our interest obvious" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_021", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can be missing when flirting falls flat?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "timing", "text": "Timing" }, { "id": "confidence", "text": "Confidence" }, { "id": "privacy", "text": "Privacy" }, { "id": "emotional_connection", "text": "Emotional connection" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_022", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps playful tension grow without feeling forced?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "letting_it_happen_naturally", "text": "Letting it happen naturally" }, { "id": "not_overexplaining_the_joke", "text": "Not overexplaining the joke" }, { "id": "a_little_mystery", "text": "A little mystery" }, { "id": "an_easy_way_to_change_the_subject", "text": "An easy way to change the subject" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_023", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which forms of anticipation make you look forward to being alone together?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "anticipation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_suggestive_message", "text": "A suggestive message" }, { "id": "a_plan_made_earlier", "text": "A plan made earlier" }, { "id": "a_private_promise", "text": "A private promise" }, { "id": "an_unexpected_change_in_tone", "text": "An unexpected change in tone" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_024", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How much flirting do you want between private moments?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Very little", "max_label": "A lot" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_025", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What is something I have said or done that made you feel instantly desired?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_026", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What keeps flirting from turning into an obligation?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "letting_it_be_just_flirting", "text": "Letting it be just flirting" }, { "id": "not_treating_it_like_a_promise", "text": "Not treating it like a promise" }, { "id": "respecting_a_change_in_mood", "text": "Respecting a change in mood" }, { "id": "enjoying_the_response_without_pushing", "text": "Enjoying the response without pushing" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_027", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What should our flirting do more often?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "make_us_laugh", "text": "Make us laugh" }, { "id": "build_anticipation", "text": "Build anticipation" }, { "id": "say_desire_more_clearly", "text": "Say desire more clearly" }, { "id": "break_up_the_routine", "text": "Break up the routine" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_028", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a flirty message feel personal rather than copied and pasted?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_references_our_history", "text": "It references our history" }, { "id": "it_sounds_like_your_real_voice", "text": "It sounds like your real voice" }, { "id": "it_notices_something_specific", "text": "It notices something specific" }, { "id": "it_fits_what_is_happening_that_day", "text": "It fits what is happening that day" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_029", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which moments are best for turning up the chemistry a little?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "before_we_leave_the_house", "text": "Before we leave the house" }, { "id": "during_a_shared_laugh", "text": "During a shared laugh" }, { "id": "when_we_finally_get_privacy", "text": "When we finally get privacy" }, { "id": "when_one_of_us_clearly_starts_it", "text": "When one of us clearly starts it" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_030", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is the best ending to a good round of flirting?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "flirting", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "let_the_tension_linger", "text": "Let the tension linger" }, { "id": "make_a_plan_for_later", "text": "Make a plan for later" }, { "id": "say_exactly_what_you_want", "text": "Say exactly what you want" }, { "id": "keep_it_playful_and_move_on", "text": "Keep it playful and move on" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_031", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes being approached feel exciting rather than assumed?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "good_timing", "text": "Good timing" }, { "id": "a_clear_invitation", "text": "A clear invitation" }, { "id": "room_to_answer_honestly", "text": "Room to answer honestly" }, { "id": "feeling_wanted_before_the_ask", "text": "Feeling wanted before the ask" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_032", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which part of initiation matters most to you?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "timing", "text": "Timing" }, { "id": "clarity", "text": "Clarity" }, { "id": "tone", "text": "Tone" }, { "id": "freedom_to_decline", "text": "Freedom to decline" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_033", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signals help you know I am interested without making you guess?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "saying_it_plainly", "text": "Saying it plainly" }, { "id": "changing_the_tone_of_the_moment", "text": "Changing the tone of the moment" }, { "id": "making_private_time", "text": "Making private time" }, { "id": "asking_whether_you_are_open_to_it", "text": "Asking whether you are open to it" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_034", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How comfortable are you initiating when you are in the mood?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not very comfortable", "max_label": "Very comfortable" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_035", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "A confident invitation or a slow hint?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_confident_invitation", "text": "A confident invitation" }, { "id": "a_slow_hint", "text": "A slow hint" }, { "id": "hint_first_then_ask", "text": "Hint first, then ask" }, { "id": "depends_on_the_mood", "text": "Depends on the mood" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_036", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you initiate without feeling exposed?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "knowing_no_will_be_handled_kindly", "text": "Knowing no will be handled kindly" }, { "id": "having_a_familiar_signal", "text": "Having a familiar signal" }, { "id": "getting_some_encouragement_first", "text": "Getting some encouragement first" }, { "id": "being_able_to_keep_it_light", "text": "Being able to keep it light" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_037", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is hardest about making the first move?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "fear_of_rejection", "text": "Fear of rejection" }, { "id": "not_knowing_your_mood", "text": "Not knowing your mood" }, { "id": "feeling_awkward_saying_it", "text": "Feeling awkward saying it" }, { "id": "waiting_for_the_perfect_moment", "text": "Waiting for the perfect moment" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_038", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which responses make an invitation feel respected even when the answer is no?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_warm_clear_answer", "text": "A warm, clear answer" }, { "id": "no_guilt_or_arguing", "text": "No guilt or arguing" }, { "id": "affection_that_does_not_disappear", "text": "Affection that does not disappear" }, { "id": "trust_that_another_moment_will_come", "text": "Trust that another moment will come" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_039", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes pursuit feel good in a long-term relationship?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "pursuit", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "effort_that_feels_intentional", "text": "Effort that feels intentional" }, { "id": "interest_outside_the_bedroom", "text": "Interest outside the bedroom" }, { "id": "being_noticed_when_you_are_not_trying", "text": "Being noticed when you are not trying" }, { "id": "no_expectation_of_a_guaranteed_result", "text": "No expectation of a guaranteed result" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_040", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can help when you are unsure of my mood?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "ask_directly", "text": "Ask directly" }, { "id": "start_with_flirting", "text": "Start with flirting" }, { "id": "create_some_privacy", "text": "Create some privacy" }, { "id": "wait_for_a_clearer_signal", "text": "Wait for a clearer signal" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_041", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How clear are our signals when one of us wants more?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Usually unclear", "max_label": "Usually very clear" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_042", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which habits could make initiating feel more equal between us?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "both_of_us_taking_turns", "text": "Both of us taking turns" }, { "id": "talking_about_preferred_signals", "text": "Talking about preferred signals" }, { "id": "responding_kindly_either_way", "text": "Responding kindly either way" }, { "id": "not_keeping_score", "text": "Not keeping score" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_043", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps a changed plan feel less disappointing?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "knowing_it_is_not_personal", "text": "Knowing it is not personal" }, { "id": "a_warm_rain_check", "text": "A warm rain check" }, { "id": "staying_connected", "text": "Staying connected" }, { "id": "making_another_plan_without_pressure", "text": "Making another plan without pressure" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_044", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What makes a rain check feel sincere?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_clear_answer", "text": "A clear answer" }, { "id": "reassurance_of_attraction", "text": "Reassurance of attraction" }, { "id": "suggesting_another_time", "text": "Suggesting another time" }, { "id": "staying_affectionate", "text": "Staying affectionate" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_045", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs tell you an invitation is about connection, not entitlement?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "initiation", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "your_answer_is_welcomed_either_way", "text": "Your answer is welcomed either way" }, { "id": "the_approach_fits_your_mood", "text": "The approach fits your mood" }, { "id": "there_is_no_punishment_for_declining", "text": "There is no punishment for declining" }, { "id": "your_comfort_matters_more_than_the_plan", "text": "Your comfort matters more than the plan" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_046", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which conditions make desire easier to access for you?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "feeling_rested", "text": "Feeling rested" }, { "id": "feeling_emotionally_connected", "text": "Feeling emotionally connected" }, { "id": "having_privacy", "text": "Having privacy" }, { "id": "having_time_to_warm_up", "text": "Having time to warm up" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_047", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "How does desire most often begin for you?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_appears_on_its_own", "text": "It appears on its own" }, { "id": "it_grows_after_closeness_starts", "text": "It grows after closeness starts" }, { "id": "it_follows_emotional_connection", "text": "It follows emotional connection" }, { "id": "it_depends_heavily_on_the_day", "text": "It depends heavily on the day" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_048", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can make a low-desire day feel completely normal?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "knowing_moods_naturally_change", "text": "Knowing moods naturally change" }, { "id": "no_pressure_to_explain", "text": "No pressure to explain" }, { "id": "staying_affectionate_anyway", "text": "Staying affectionate anyway" }, { "id": "trusting_there_will_be_other_days", "text": "Trusting there will be other days" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_049", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Spontaneous spark or slow warm-up?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "spontaneous_spark", "text": "Spontaneous spark" }, { "id": "slow_warm_up", "text": "Slow warm-up" }, { "id": "usually_a_mix", "text": "Usually a mix" }, { "id": "it_changes_with_life", "text": "It changes with life" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_050", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things help you notice desire before the moment passes?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "less_mental_clutter", "text": "Less mental clutter" }, { "id": "time_without_interruptions", "text": "Time without interruptions" }, { "id": "flirting_earlier", "text": "Flirting earlier" }, { "id": "paying_attention_to_your_own_body_and_mood", "text": "Paying attention to your own body and mood" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_051", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When your desire is quiet, what helps most?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "more_rest", "text": "More rest" }, { "id": "more_connection", "text": "More connection" }, { "id": "more_playful_attention", "text": "More playful attention" }, { "id": "no_attempt_to_change_it", "text": "No attempt to change it" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_052", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes it easier to talk about different desire levels without making it personal?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "using_neutral_language", "text": "Using neutral language" }, { "id": "talking_outside_the_moment", "text": "Talking outside the moment" }, { "id": "avoiding_comparisons", "text": "Avoiding comparisons" }, { "id": "remembering_desire_is_not_a_score", "text": "Remembering desire is not a score" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_053", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which changes can affect your desire more than people might realize?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "stress", "text": "Stress" }, { "id": "sleep", "text": "Sleep" }, { "id": "body_confidence", "text": "Body confidence" }, { "id": "feeling_emotionally_disconnected", "text": "Feeling emotionally disconnected" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_054", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How predictable does your desire feel from week to week?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Very unpredictable", "max_label": "Very predictable" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_055", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What do you wish I understood better about how desire works for you?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_056", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps desire feel welcome without turning it into a goal?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "curiosity_instead_of_pressure", "text": "Curiosity instead of pressure" }, { "id": "time_to_warm_up", "text": "Time to warm up" }, { "id": "permission_for_the_mood_to_change", "text": "Permission for the mood to change" }, { "id": "enjoying_closeness_at_any_level", "text": "Enjoying closeness at any level" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_057", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which descriptions fit your desire lately?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "easy_to_find", "text": "Easy to find" }, { "id": "there_but_slower", "text": "There, but slower" }, { "id": "unpredictable", "text": "Unpredictable" }, { "id": "mostly_crowded_out", "text": "Mostly crowded out" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_058", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can make desire return after a flat stretch?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "feeling_rested_again", "text": "Feeling rested again" }, { "id": "breaking_routine", "text": "Breaking routine" }, { "id": "feeling_pursued", "text": "Feeling pursued" }, { "id": "clearing_unresolved_tension", "text": "Clearing unresolved tension" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_059", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which expectations make desire harder to access?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_should_happen_on_schedule", "text": "It should happen on schedule" }, { "id": "both_people_should_want_the_same_amount", "text": "Both people should want the same amount" }, { "id": "interest_should_look_the_same_every_time", "text": "Interest should look the same every time" }, { "id": "a_slow_start_means_no_interest", "text": "A slow start means no interest" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_060", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What would help us work with our desire rhythms instead of fighting them?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_rhythm", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "better_timing", "text": "Better timing" }, { "id": "more_honest_check_ins", "text": "More honest check-ins" }, { "id": "less_pressure", "text": "Less pressure" }, { "id": "more_planned_privacy", "text": "More planned privacy" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_061", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps your mind leave the day behind before desire has a chance?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_little_quiet", "text": "A little quiet" }, { "id": "a_shared_laugh", "text": "A shared laugh" }, { "id": "feeling_finished_with_responsibilities", "text": "Feeling finished with responsibilities" }, { "id": "some_attention_with_no_agenda", "text": "Some attention with no agenda" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_062", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is the biggest mood-killer after a long day?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "mental_overload", "text": "Mental overload" }, { "id": "feeling_rushed", "text": "Feeling rushed" }, { "id": "no_privacy", "text": "No privacy" }, { "id": "unresolved_tension", "text": "Unresolved tension" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_063", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which small changes could make private time easier to enjoy?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "fewer_interruptions", "text": "Fewer interruptions" }, { "id": "a_slower_transition", "text": "A slower transition" }, { "id": "less_pressure_to_perform", "text": "Less pressure to perform" }, { "id": "knowing_we_can_stop_anytime", "text": "Knowing we can stop anytime" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_064", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How much does stress affect your desire right now?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Hardly at all", "max_label": "A great deal" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_065", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Unwind first or flirt through the stress?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "unwind_first", "text": "Unwind first" }, { "id": "flirt_through_the_stress", "text": "Flirt through the stress" }, { "id": "a_little_of_both", "text": "A little of both" }, { "id": "ask_me_that_day", "text": "Ask me that day" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_066", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you shift from responsible-adult mode into partner mode?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_real_break_from_tasks", "text": "A real break from tasks" }, { "id": "a_change_of_setting", "text": "A change of setting" }, { "id": "feeling_emotionally_welcomed", "text": "Feeling emotionally welcomed" }, { "id": "time_without_a_clock", "text": "Time without a clock" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_067", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When you are exhausted, what keeps closeness from feeling like one more task?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "no_expectations", "text": "No expectations" }, { "id": "a_very_simple_invitation", "text": "A very simple invitation" }, { "id": "knowing_rest_is_also_okay", "text": "Knowing rest is also okay" }, { "id": "feeling_understood_first", "text": "Feeling understood first" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_068", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which kinds of stress tend to shut desire down fastest?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "work_pressure", "text": "Work pressure" }, { "id": "family_demands", "text": "Family demands" }, { "id": "money_worries", "text": "Money worries" }, { "id": "conflict_between_us", "text": "Conflict between us" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_069", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps desire survive a busy season?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "keeping_some_flirtation_alive", "text": "Keeping some flirtation alive" }, { "id": "protecting_small_pockets_of_privacy", "text": "Protecting small pockets of privacy" }, { "id": "not_taking_low_energy_personally", "text": "Not taking low energy personally" }, { "id": "making_realistic_plans", "text": "Making realistic plans" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_070", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which resets would help most this week?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "more_sleep", "text": "More sleep" }, { "id": "a_night_without_responsibilities", "text": "A night without responsibilities" }, { "id": "time_alone_together", "text": "Time alone together" }, { "id": "a_good_conversation_first", "text": "A good conversation first" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_071", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How much transition time do you need before you can feel open to desire?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Almost none", "max_label": "Quite a bit" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_072", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs should prompt me to check in and slow down?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "i_seem_mentally_elsewhere", "text": "I seem mentally elsewhere" }, { "id": "my_answers_are_short", "text": "My answers are short" }, { "id": "i_am_still_handling_tasks", "text": "I am still handling tasks" }, { "id": "i_ask_for_space_or_rest", "text": "I ask for space or rest" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_073", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes planned private time feel helpful instead of like another appointment?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "keeping_the_plan_flexible", "text": "Keeping the plan flexible" }, { "id": "building_in_time_to_unwind", "text": "Building in time to unwind" }, { "id": "no_guaranteed_outcome", "text": "No guaranteed outcome" }, { "id": "both_of_us_choosing_it", "text": "Both of us choosing it" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_074", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What most often brings your playful side back after stress?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "laughter", "text": "Laughter" }, { "id": "feeling_admired", "text": "Feeling admired" }, { "id": "a_change_of_scenery", "text": "A change of scenery" }, { "id": "finishing_what_was_weighing_on_me", "text": "Finishing what was weighing on me" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_075", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which supports would make it easier for desire to return naturally?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "stress_and_energy", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "more_rest", "text": "More rest" }, { "id": "more_practical_help", "text": "More practical help" }, { "id": "more_emotional_repair", "text": "More emotional repair" }, { "id": "more_pressure_free_affection", "text": "More pressure-free affection" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_076", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps a difference in desire feel less personal?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "remembering_moods_change", "text": "Remembering moods change" }, { "id": "a_kind_direct_answer", "text": "A kind, direct answer" }, { "id": "reassurance_of_attraction", "text": "Reassurance of attraction" }, { "id": "no_scorekeeping", "text": "No scorekeeping" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_077", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When one of us is not in the mood, what matters most?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "honesty", "text": "Honesty" }, { "id": "kindness", "text": "Kindness" }, { "id": "no_pressure", "text": "No pressure" }, { "id": "staying_connected", "text": "Staying connected" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_078", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which responses help a no feel safe to give?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "accepting_it_the_first_time", "text": "Accepting it the first time" }, { "id": "not_asking_for_a_defense", "text": "Not asking for a defense" }, { "id": "keeping_your_tone_warm", "text": "Keeping your tone warm" }, { "id": "not_withdrawing_affection", "text": "Not withdrawing affection" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_079", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "A gentle rain check or a clear no for tonight?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_gentle_rain_check", "text": "A gentle rain check" }, { "id": "a_clear_no_for_tonight", "text": "A clear no for tonight" }, { "id": "whichever_is_more_honest", "text": "Whichever is more honest" }, { "id": "either_said_kindly", "text": "Either, said kindly" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_080", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps the person who wanted more closeness handle disappointment well?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "not_treating_it_as_rejection_of_the_relationship", "text": "Not treating it as rejection of the relationship" }, { "id": "taking_time_to_reset", "text": "Taking time to reset" }, { "id": "accepting_reassurance_without_bargaining", "text": "Accepting reassurance without bargaining" }, { "id": "letting_the_disappointment_pass_without_blame", "text": "Letting the disappointment pass without blame" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_081", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can turn a difference in desire into a bigger problem?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "taking_it_personally", "text": "Taking it personally" }, { "id": "keeping_score", "text": "Keeping score" }, { "id": "avoiding_the_topic", "text": "Avoiding the topic" }, { "id": "trying_to_pressure_a_change", "text": "Trying to pressure a change" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_082", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which habits protect both people when desire does not match?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "talking_outside_the_moment", "text": "Talking outside the moment" }, { "id": "using_clear_kind_language", "text": "Using clear, kind language" }, { "id": "making_room_for_different_needs", "text": "Making room for different needs" }, { "id": "never_treating_consent_as_negotiable", "text": "Never treating consent as negotiable" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_083", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can reassure you after an invitation does not land?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "hearing_it_was_not_personal", "text": "Hearing it was not personal" }, { "id": "staying_affectionate", "text": "Staying affectionate" }, { "id": "knowing_another_time_is_possible", "text": "Knowing another time is possible" }, { "id": "being_thanked_for_asking_respectfully", "text": "Being thanked for asking respectfully" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_084", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How safe does it feel to want different amounts without upsetting each other?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not very safe", "max_label": "Completely safe" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_085", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would a kind response to mismatched desire look like for us?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_086", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which conversations should happen before frustration builds?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "how_often_each_person_thinks_about_sex", "text": "How often each person thinks about sex" }, { "id": "what_low_desire_means_and_does_not_mean", "text": "What low desire means and does not mean" }, { "id": "how_to_initiate_respectfully", "text": "How to initiate respectfully" }, { "id": "how_to_stay_close_through_dry_spells", "text": "How to stay close through dry spells" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_087", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is the best time to talk about a recurring desire mismatch?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "during_a_calm_private_moment", "text": "During a calm private moment" }, { "id": "soon_after_once_emotions_settle", "text": "Soon after, once emotions settle" }, { "id": "during_a_planned_check_in", "text": "During a planned check-in" }, { "id": "whenever_both_people_feel_ready", "text": "Whenever both people feel ready" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_088", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What keeps reassurance from sounding like a promise you cannot make?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "being_honest_about_your_mood", "text": "Being honest about your mood" }, { "id": "affirming_attraction_without_setting_a_date", "text": "Affirming attraction without setting a date" }, { "id": "avoiding_guilt_driven_offers", "text": "Avoiding guilt-driven offers" }, { "id": "letting_uncertainty_be_acceptable", "text": "Letting uncertainty be acceptable" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_089", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things are fair to ask for when desire is different?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "honest_communication", "text": "Honest communication" }, { "id": "respectful_initiation", "text": "Respectful initiation" }, { "id": "kind_handling_of_no", "text": "Kind handling of no" }, { "id": "a_conversation_about_the_pattern", "text": "A conversation about the pattern" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_090", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What would make this topic easier for us to revisit?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "mismatched_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "less_blame", "text": "Less blame" }, { "id": "clearer_language", "text": "Clearer language" }, { "id": "a_set_time_to_talk", "text": "A set time to talk" }, { "id": "more_reassurance_first", "text": "More reassurance first" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_091", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel attractive when your confidence is off?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_specific_compliment", "text": "A specific compliment" }, { "id": "being_looked_at_with_real_interest", "text": "Being looked at with real interest" }, { "id": "no_attention_on_insecurities", "text": "No attention on insecurities" }, { "id": "time_to_feel_like_yourself_again", "text": "Time to feel like yourself again" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_092", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which compliment feels most connected to desire?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "you_look_incredible", "text": "You look incredible" }, { "id": "i_cannot_stop_thinking_about_you", "text": "I cannot stop thinking about you" }, { "id": "i_love_the_way_you_carry_yourself", "text": "I love the way you carry yourself" }, { "id": "i_want_you_close", "text": "I want you close" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_093", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a compliment easier to believe?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_is_specific", "text": "It is specific" }, { "id": "it_comes_at_an_unexpected_time", "text": "It comes at an unexpected time" }, { "id": "it_sounds_like_your_real_voice", "text": "It sounds like your real voice" }, { "id": "it_asks_for_nothing_in_return", "text": "It asks for nothing in return" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_094", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How comfortable do you feel being openly desired by me?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not very comfortable", "max_label": "Very comfortable" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_095", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "A bold compliment or quiet admiration?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_bold_compliment", "text": "A bold compliment" }, { "id": "quiet_admiration", "text": "Quiet admiration" }, { "id": "both_at_different_times", "text": "Both at different times" }, { "id": "whichever_feels_sincere", "text": "Whichever feels sincere" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_096", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things help body worries fade into the background?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "feeling_emotionally_safe", "text": "Feeling emotionally safe" }, { "id": "not_being_rushed", "text": "Not being rushed" }, { "id": "attention_that_is_not_critical", "text": "Attention that is not critical" }, { "id": "knowing_you_are_wanted_as_you_are", "text": "Knowing you are wanted as you are" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_097", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "When confidence is low, what kind of attention is easiest to receive?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "gentle_and_patient", "text": "Gentle and patient" }, { "id": "playful_and_distracting", "text": "Playful and distracting" }, { "id": "direct_and_reassuring", "text": "Direct and reassuring" }, { "id": "quiet_with_no_pressure", "text": "Quiet with no pressure" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_098", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What can make sexual attention feel uncomfortable even when it is meant kindly?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "focusing_on_an_insecurity", "text": "Focusing on an insecurity" }, { "id": "being_too_public", "text": "Being too public" }, { "id": "expecting_an_immediate_response", "text": "Expecting an immediate response" }, { "id": "not_noticing_your_mood", "text": "Not noticing your mood" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_099", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which changes can affect how desirable you feel?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "stress_and_exhaustion", "text": "Stress and exhaustion" }, { "id": "aging_or_body_changes", "text": "Aging or body changes" }, { "id": "health_changes", "text": "Health changes" }, { "id": "how_we_have_been_relating_lately", "text": "How we have been relating lately" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_100", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps you feel sexy without needing to look perfect?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "feeling_confident", "text": "Feeling confident" }, { "id": "feeling_wanted", "text": "Feeling wanted" }, { "id": "feeling_relaxed", "text": "Feeling relaxed" }, { "id": "feeling_playful", "text": "Feeling playful" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_101", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How well do you think I understand what affects your sexual confidence?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not very well", "max_label": "Very well" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_102", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What kind of reassurance supports confidence without dismissing your feelings?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "listening_before_reassuring", "text": "Listening before reassuring" }, { "id": "naming_what_you_truly_find_attractive", "text": "Naming what you truly find attractive" }, { "id": "not_arguing_with_the_insecurity", "text": "Not arguing with the insecurity" }, { "id": "giving_attention_without_pushing_for_more", "text": "Giving attention without pushing for more" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_103", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which moments make you feel most magnetic around me?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "when_i_am_laughing", "text": "When I am laughing" }, { "id": "when_i_feel_capable", "text": "When I feel capable" }, { "id": "when_i_dress_for_myself", "text": "When I dress for myself" }, { "id": "when_i_know_you_are_watching", "text": "When I know you are watching" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_104", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What would help you trust that my desire is real as we change?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "hearing_it_more_often", "text": "Hearing it more often" }, { "id": "seeing_it_in_your_actions", "text": "Seeing it in your actions" }, { "id": "talking_honestly_about_changes", "text": "Talking honestly about changes" }, { "id": "feeling_pursued_in_new_ways", "text": "Feeling pursued in new ways" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_105", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps attraction grow beyond appearance alone?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "sexual_confidence", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "confidence", "text": "Confidence" }, { "id": "humor", "text": "Humor" }, { "id": "emotional_closeness", "text": "Emotional closeness" }, { "id": "the_way_we_know_each_other", "text": "The way we know each other" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_106", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes talking about desire feel safe and normal?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "desire_communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "no_joking_at_the_other_person_s_expense", "text": "No joking at the other person's expense" }, { "id": "no_pressure_for_an_immediate_answer", "text": "No pressure for an immediate answer" }, { "id": "curiosity_instead_of_criticism", "text": "Curiosity instead of criticism" }, { "id": "privacy", "text": "Privacy" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_107", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "Which check-in sounds most natural when the mood is unclear?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "consent", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "are_you_into_this", "text": "Are you into this?" }, { "id": "want_me_to_keep_going", "text": "Want me to keep going?" }, { "id": "how_are_you_feeling", "text": "How are you feeling?" }, { "id": "would_you_rather_slow_down", "text": "Would you rather slow down?" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_108", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which answers should always be treated as complete answers?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "consent", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "not_tonight", "text": "Not tonight" }, { "id": "i_am_not_sure", "text": "I am not sure" }, { "id": "i_want_to_slow_down", "text": "I want to slow down" }, { "id": "i_changed_my_mind", "text": "I changed my mind" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_109", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Ask plainly or check in through the moment?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "consent", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "ask_plainly", "text": "Ask plainly" }, { "id": "check_in_through_the_moment", "text": "Check in through the moment" }, { "id": "use_both", "text": "Use both" }, { "id": "ask_what_i_prefer", "text": "Ask what I prefer" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_110", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes feedback easier to hear without killing the mood?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feedback", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_warm_tone", "text": "A warm tone" }, { "id": "clear_simple_words", "text": "Clear, simple words" }, { "id": "knowing_it_is_not_criticism", "text": "Knowing it is not criticism" }, { "id": "a_response_that_shows_appreciation", "text": "A response that shows appreciation" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_111", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "When can feedback about desire be easiest to share?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feedback", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "in_the_moment_briefly", "text": "In the moment, briefly" }, { "id": "later_that_night", "text": "Later that night" }, { "id": "the_next_day", "text": "The next day" }, { "id": "during_a_separate_conversation", "text": "During a separate conversation" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_112", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which phrases help keep consent active instead of assumed?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "do_you_want_this", "text": "Do you want this?" }, { "id": "still_good", "text": "Still good?" }, { "id": "want_something_different", "text": "Want something different?" }, { "id": "we_can_stop", "text": "We can stop" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_113", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What should happen when someone changes their mind?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "consent", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "stop_without_debate", "text": "Stop without debate" }, { "id": "respond_without_sulking", "text": "Respond without sulking" }, { "id": "check_what_would_feel_okay_now", "text": "Check what would feel okay now" }, { "id": "make_sure_the_person_still_feels_respected", "text": "Make sure the person still feels respected" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_114", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How easy is it for you to ask for something different in the moment?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feedback", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Very difficult", "max_label": "Very easy" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_115", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "What would help you speak more freely about desire with me?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_116", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which reactions make honest feedback feel risky?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feedback", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "getting_defensive", "text": "Getting defensive" }, { "id": "taking_it_as_rejection", "text": "Taking it as rejection" }, { "id": "making_jokes_about_it_later", "text": "Making jokes about it later" }, { "id": "pressuring_for_an_explanation", "text": "Pressuring for an explanation" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_117", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is the best first response to vulnerable feedback?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "feedback", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "thank_you_for_telling_me", "text": "Thank you for telling me" }, { "id": "tell_me_what_would_feel_better", "text": "Tell me what would feel better" }, { "id": "i_am_listening", "text": "I am listening" }, { "id": "we_can_slow_down", "text": "We can slow down" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_118", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What helps a desire conversation feel natural instead of awkward?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "plain_language", "text": "Plain language" }, { "id": "a_little_humor", "text": "A little humor" }, { "id": "no_guessing_games", "text": "No guessing games" }, { "id": "respect_for_different_answers", "text": "Respect for different answers" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_119", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which topics are easier to talk about before desire is already in the room?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "how_to_initiate", "text": "How to initiate" }, { "id": "how_to_say_no", "text": "How to say no" }, { "id": "what_affects_desire", "text": "What affects desire" }, { "id": "how_to_give_feedback", "text": "How to give feedback" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_120", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What would improve our desire conversations most?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_communication", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "more_honesty", "text": "More honesty" }, { "id": "better_timing", "text": "Better timing" }, { "id": "less_embarrassment", "text": "Less embarrassment" }, { "id": "more_follow_through", "text": "More follow-through" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_121", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which things keep attraction alive after years together?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "long_term_chemistry", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "still_flirting", "text": "Still flirting" }, { "id": "seeing_each_other_in_new_settings", "text": "Seeing each other in new settings" }, { "id": "feeling_appreciated", "text": "Feeling appreciated" }, { "id": "making_private_time_matter", "text": "Making private time matter" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_122", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What gives our chemistry the biggest boost?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "long_term_chemistry", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "novelty", "text": "Novelty" }, { "id": "privacy", "text": "Privacy" }, { "id": "emotional_closeness", "text": "Emotional closeness" }, { "id": "playfulness", "text": "Playfulness" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_123", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What could make an ordinary week feel a little more charged?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "long_term_chemistry", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_flirty_plan", "text": "A flirty plan" }, { "id": "a_surprise_compliment", "text": "A surprise compliment" }, { "id": "a_night_with_no_interruptions", "text": "A night with no interruptions" }, { "id": "trying_a_new_setting", "text": "Trying a new setting" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_124", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How alive does our chemistry feel right now?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "long_term_chemistry", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Pretty quiet", "max_label": "Very alive" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_125", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Familiar chemistry or a little novelty?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "long_term_chemistry", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "familiar_chemistry", "text": "Familiar chemistry" }, { "id": "a_little_novelty", "text": "A little novelty" }, { "id": "a_mix_of_both", "text": "A mix of both" }, { "id": "depends_on_the_week", "text": "Depends on the week" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_126", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What kind of novelty feels exciting without becoming a production?", "depth": 2, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "novelty", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "a_different_time_of_day", "text": "A different time of day" }, { "id": "a_change_of_setting", "text": "A change of setting" }, { "id": "a_new_way_of_building_anticipation", "text": "A new way of building anticipation" }, { "id": "letting_one_of_us_set_the_tone", "text": "Letting one of us set the tone" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_127", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What most often makes long-term desire feel routine?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "long_term_chemistry", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "predictable_timing", "text": "Predictable timing" }, { "id": "no_build_up", "text": "No build-up" }, { "id": "too_many_interruptions", "text": "Too many interruptions" }, { "id": "feeling_taken_for_granted", "text": "Feeling taken for granted" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_128", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which habits help us stay curious about each other?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "long_term_chemistry", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "asking_what_has_changed", "text": "Asking what has changed" }, { "id": "not_assuming_we_know_every_answer", "text": "Not assuming we know every answer" }, { "id": "sharing_new_thoughts_without_pressure", "text": "Sharing new thoughts without pressure" }, { "id": "noticing_different_sides_of_each_other", "text": "Noticing different sides of each other" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_129", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What makes a surprise feel sexy instead of stressful?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "novelty", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "it_respects_known_limits", "text": "It respects known limits" }, { "id": "it_is_easy_to_decline", "text": "It is easy to decline" }, { "id": "it_fits_the_day", "text": "It fits the day" }, { "id": "it_leaves_room_for_your_response", "text": "It leaves room for your response" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_130", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which changes could refresh our chemistry?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "novelty", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "more_anticipation", "text": "More anticipation" }, { "id": "more_privacy", "text": "More privacy" }, { "id": "more_playfulness", "text": "More playfulness" }, { "id": "more_direct_desire", "text": "More direct desire" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_131", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How open are you to changing our usual rhythm?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "novelty", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not very open", "max_label": "Very open" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_132", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What keeps novelty from becoming pressure to top the last experience?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "novelty", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "keeping_expectations_realistic", "text": "Keeping expectations realistic" }, { "id": "letting_simple_moments_count", "text": "Letting simple moments count" }, { "id": "not_comparing_experiences", "text": "Not comparing experiences" }, { "id": "allowing_either_person_to_pass", "text": "Allowing either person to pass" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_133", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which parts of our chemistry feel uniquely ours?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "long_term_chemistry", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "our_private_humor", "text": "Our private humor" }, { "id": "the_way_tension_builds", "text": "The way tension builds" }, { "id": "how_well_we_read_each_other", "text": "How well we read each other" }, { "id": "the_history_behind_the_attraction", "text": "The history behind the attraction" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_134", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What deserves more attention if we want to protect our spark?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "long_term_chemistry", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "time", "text": "Time" }, { "id": "energy", "text": "Energy" }, { "id": "privacy", "text": "Privacy" }, { "id": "emotional_connection", "text": "Emotional connection" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_135", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What could help us avoid waiting for desire to happen by accident?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "long_term_chemistry", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "protecting_time_together", "text": "Protecting time together" }, { "id": "flirting_before_the_moment", "text": "Flirting before the moment" }, { "id": "talking_about_what_has_changed", "text": "Talking about what has changed" }, { "id": "making_room_for_spontaneity", "text": "Making room for spontaneity" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_136", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which memories still remind you that our chemistry is real?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "desire_history", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "an_early_date_moment", "text": "An early-date moment" }, { "id": "a_time_we_could_not_stop_flirting", "text": "A time we could not stop flirting" }, { "id": "a_reunion_after_time_apart", "text": "A reunion after time apart" }, { "id": "a_completely_ordinary_night_that_clicked", "text": "A completely ordinary night that clicked" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_137", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What has changed most about desire between us?", "depth": 3, "access": "free", "tags": [ "desire_over_time", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "how_it_starts", "text": "How it starts" }, { "id": "how_often_it_shows_up", "text": "How often it shows up" }, { "id": "what_helps_it_grow", "text": "What helps it grow" }, { "id": "how_openly_we_talk_about_it", "text": "How openly we talk about it" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_138", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What has gotten better about our sexual connection over time?", "depth": 2, "access": "free", "tags": [ "desire_over_time", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "trust", "text": "Trust" }, { "id": "communication", "text": "Communication" }, { "id": "confidence", "text": "Confidence" }, { "id": "knowing_each_other_s_rhythms", "text": "Knowing each other's rhythms" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_139", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "this_or_that", "text": "Recreate an old spark or make a new memory?", "depth": 1, "access": "free", "tags": [ "desire_history", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "fun_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "recreate_an_old_spark", "text": "Recreate an old spark" }, { "id": "make_a_new_memory", "text": "Make a new memory" }, { "id": "start_old_and_change_it", "text": "Start old and change it" }, { "id": "whichever_feels_natural", "text": "Whichever feels natural" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_140", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which life changes have most shaped our desire as a couple?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_over_time", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "work_and_responsibilities", "text": "Work and responsibilities" }, { "id": "health_or_body_changes", "text": "Health or body changes" }, { "id": "parenting_or_family_demands", "text": "Parenting or family demands" }, { "id": "how_emotionally_connected_we_feel", "text": "How emotionally connected we feel" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_141", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What do you miss most from an earlier chapter of our chemistry?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_history", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "more_spontaneity", "text": "More spontaneity" }, { "id": "more_anticipation", "text": "More anticipation" }, { "id": "more_confidence", "text": "More confidence" }, { "id": "more_uninterrupted_time", "text": "More uninterrupted time" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_142", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What from our early attraction is still worth protecting?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_history", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "curiosity", "text": "Curiosity" }, { "id": "effort", "text": "Effort" }, { "id": "boldness", "text": "Boldness" }, { "id": "the_feeling_of_choosing_each_other", "text": "The feeling of choosing each other" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_143", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which changes in desire deserve compassion rather than fixing?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_over_time", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "slower_warm_up", "text": "Slower warm-up" }, { "id": "lower_energy", "text": "Lower energy" }, { "id": "different_timing", "text": "Different timing" }, { "id": "a_need_for_more_reassurance", "text": "A need for more reassurance" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_144", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "scale", "text": "How well have we adapted to the ways our desire has changed?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_over_time", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "min": 1, "max": 5, "min_label": "Not very well", "max_label": "Very well" } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_145", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "written", "text": "When have you felt most desired by me, and what made that moment work?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_history", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "max_length": 500 } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_146", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What would help our next chapter of desire feel honest and exciting?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_over_time", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "talking_about_what_is_different_now", "text": "Talking about what is different now" }, { "id": "keeping_pressure_low", "text": "Keeping pressure low" }, { "id": "trying_new_ways_to_build_anticipation", "text": "Trying new ways to build anticipation" }, { "id": "protecting_more_private_time", "text": "Protecting more private time" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_147", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What should we stop assuming about each other's desire?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_over_time", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "that_it_works_the_same_as_before", "text": "That it works the same as before" }, { "id": "that_silence_means_no_interest", "text": "That silence means no interest" }, { "id": "that_one_person_should_always_initiate", "text": "That one person should always initiate" }, { "id": "that_desire_should_be_predictable", "text": "That desire should be predictable" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_148", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "Which signs would tell you our chemistry is growing again?", "depth": 3, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "desire_over_time", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "more_spontaneous_flirting", "text": "More spontaneous flirting" }, { "id": "more_honest_invitations", "text": "More honest invitations" }, { "id": "more_anticipation", "text": "More anticipation" }, { "id": "more_ease_after_a_no", "text": "More ease after a no" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_149", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "multi_choice", "text": "What would make desire feel like something we share, not something one person manages?", "depth": 5, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "shared_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "we_both_show_interest", "text": "We both show interest" }, { "id": "we_both_protect_consent", "text": "We both protect consent" }, { "id": "we_both_name_what_has_changed", "text": "We both name what has changed" }, { "id": "we_both_make_room_for_connection", "text": "We both make room for connection" } ] } }, { "id": "sex_and_desire_150", "category_id": "sex_and_desire", "type": "single_choice", "text": "What is the strongest foundation for desire between us now?", "depth": 4, "access": "premium", "tags": [ "shared_desire", "sex_and_desire", "consent_first", "gentle_depth" ], "answer_config": { "options": [ { "id": "trust", "text": "Trust" }, { "id": "attraction", "text": "Attraction" }, { "id": "friendship", "text": "Friendship" }, { "id": "honest_communication", "text": "Honest communication" } ] } } ] }